That's a tough situation. You want to support your boyfriend's career, but eight months with limited phone/Internet connection is a long time to be away from each other. Email, Skype, and unlimited cellular plans have been a boon for long-distance relationships. However, situations still arise where one or both parties in a relationship gets sent to a place where our modern communication luxuries are of little or no help.
Therefore, you must do what countless far-flung lovers have done for centuries: Write each other letters. Long, loving, racy, romantic letters. Love notes that you'll both keep and look back at when you're old and want to remember that brief period when you were apart. Remember the excitement of getting letters at camp? Or getting a letter in middle school from a guy you were crushing on? There's still something awesomeromanticmagical about getting a letter. Try writing to each other. It might seem weird at first (who uses a pen anymore?), but it'll be exciting once you start receiving handwritten letters in the mail from each other. And since you're actually taking the time to sit down and compose something, the stuff you'll be saying will be meaningful. It won't be the normal "how was your day?" stuff-- the act of writing a letter could open you both up to deep conversations. Also, send him care packages filled with comforts from home. He's going to get homesick pretty fast, and will appreciate getting his favorite treats, books, DVDs, etc. in the mail.
Otherwise, make the most of what phone/Internet time you have. Set aside time to Skype when he has Internet. Even if it's a small amount of face-to-face time, it'll make the time apart easier. (Just think how hard people in LDR's had it before Skype!) Eight months is a while, but it's not that long if you keep in touch by every means available. And that includes good old-fashioned letter writing. You don't need a strong cellular or wifi signal to send a sweet, romantic letter.
Therefore, you must do what countless far-flung lovers have done for centuries: Write each other letters. Long, loving, racy, romantic letters. Love notes that you'll both keep and look back at when you're old and want to remember that brief period when you were apart. Remember the excitement of getting letters at camp? Or getting a letter in middle school from a guy you were crushing on? There's still something awesomeromanticmagical about getting a letter. Try writing to each other. It might seem weird at first (who uses a pen anymore?), but it'll be exciting once you start receiving handwritten letters in the mail from each other. And since you're actually taking the time to sit down and compose something, the stuff you'll be saying will be meaningful. It won't be the normal "how was your day?" stuff-- the act of writing a letter could open you both up to deep conversations. Also, send him care packages filled with comforts from home. He's going to get homesick pretty fast, and will appreciate getting his favorite treats, books, DVDs, etc. in the mail.
Otherwise, make the most of what phone/Internet time you have. Set aside time to Skype when he has Internet. Even if it's a small amount of face-to-face time, it'll make the time apart easier. (Just think how hard people in LDR's had it before Skype!) Eight months is a while, but it's not that long if you keep in touch by every means available. And that includes good old-fashioned letter writing. You don't need a strong cellular or wifi signal to send a sweet, romantic letter.
My son is in the Navy & it seems like I talk/text/email with him daily. He texts me (free) using an app, TextNow. He uses Viper (another app) to call me free. Watch out for that one, sometimes it charges the caller. We also Skype, but we FaceTime too. It’s fee if you are both in a wifi zone. I’ve been on many cruises & as soon as they pull away from port, there always seem to be a wifi signal until we hit the next destination. Check his cruise line for details. Best of luck…
http://www.lovingfromadistance.com/
that is the website for a LDR support forum. they're amazing there and will help you through it. It's always nice to have people who understand what your going through!
I was in an LDR for a few months (he didn't make an effort to communicate) and they helped me from beginning to after the end!
It'll be hard but CGs letter writing suggestion is a great one. as is sending care packages.
Love the care package idea! I once had a LDR where we wrote back and forth, but tried to make each letter unique. I got a T-shirt from his favorite local restaurant from my home town and wrote my letter on the back of it. He wrote me a letter on a (new) pair of boxers he doused with his cologne that I loved to smell. Send a collage of pictures and magazine clippings of things that will remind him of memories between you two. As goofy as this sounds, my guy loved them because he appreciated the thought, time and effort that went into each one of them. Good luck!
Could very much relate to the asker. Although it's easy for others to say "enjoy the moments you have now before he boards the plane/ship/car", it still is tough not to let your mind wander off and ask questions: what would happen/how can we survive the distance/will it work? I think it's pretty normal to go through those scary thoughts.
My boyfriend's about to go on a long-term trip too. While we probably won't have any problems with techie stuffs (except the bandwidth is too sloooooow for YMs/videos in the country he's going so we're limited to e-mails/calls when he gets there), it's the time difference I'm not a big fan of. Bedtime there is waking time here and vice-versa.
I happen to be a HUGE fan of old fashioned handwritten love letters. And while I do communicate with him through text, email, phone, I have already started writing him cards and sending them by mail. I got a positive response with my first cheesy card for him. I guess this is also my way of preparing myself for his trip.
What you really need to watch out for are people who will discourage you from continuing your relationship. It's been tough for me hearing I should just date other people while he's away to the point that I stopped sharing anything about our relationship with those "friends" and even family members. If your love for each other is strong and true, as naive or stupid or farfetched this may sound, it can withstand time and distance. It just takes a lot of trust from you both. That, and the courage to still continue on with the relationship despite the unknown turns that'll come your way.