Uhh, ok this is a girl issue. As a woman, I think its utter crap. If you're so insecure about your relationship that you can't stop acting all sensitive when he admires other girls, thats the girls problem, not the guys.

As a woman, yes I am a girl, I can't stand anyone that acts like a jealous brat.

I have a husband that I love more than anything in the world. It would hurt me terribly if he cheated. Looking at other women is NOT cheating. Its human. I look at other guys too.

So what. The very fact that we can both do that shows how incredibly secure we are with each other. Heck, sometimes we'll even mention it to each other. It makes us laugh.

Women need to chill.

I think it's disrespectful for my husband to comment about other girls when I'm around. It has nothing to do with being insecure or afraid that he would cheat on me, because realistically, a strange girl he sees on the street is not going to suddenly hump him because he finds her attractive.

Not only is this disrespectful to me, I think, but also for the person he's commenting on. Women are more than how they look, and I get just as bent out of shape when he comments on a good looking woman as I would if he were commenting on an unattractive women, or an unattractive guy for that matter. I think it's sexist to think that a girl would automatically feel flattered by and okay with whatever a guy says about her as long as it's something nice about her appearance. I just think we have more to think about than if some random guy thinks we're hot.

If the girl he's with is cool with, no problem. I can see where some women would be comfortable with it, because it's not that big of deal for everyone, I just hate that it's an automatic assumption that if the girl gets pissed for being treated that way it means that she's a high strung ball of insecurities. If my husband wants to act that way around his buds, or if I'm around a bunch of dudes who aren't my husband and they act that way, that's his and their own thing, but I appreciate it if he can refrain while I'm around because I deserve common respect from him.

Looking is different than commenting.
MM is right. Start commenting, and I say go further - flirt in front of him to really drive your point home. If he doesn't like it, call him a "jealous brat", and trot off.
Well, you might really piss him off, so temper it a bit. Seriously though, be honest with your own feelings about it. First with yourself. It is just as human to be jealous as it is sexual. Your feelings are natural, and it is up to you to decide how you react to them. Your feelings are good, no matter what they are. When you take the opportunity to explore them, and question them, that is when self discovery happens. Then you can thank your thoughtless boyfriend for his callous disregard for you because you got to learn something about yourself. And move on with or without him, but with a greater understanding of who you are.

Yeah, that sounds like convo you have with your homeboys, not with your girl. I'd never tell my girlfriend that I think another chick is hot unless its LC from The Hills. But she knows that I think she's hot already so its a non-issue. It just seems disrespectful to throw that at her.

It's poor form to be pointing out to your girl just how wandering our manly eyes can be. They're acutely aware of far too many of our flaws already, should we be painting extra bullseyes on ourselves? That's like a gazelle teaching a lion all about the tastiest cuts of meat.
That said, this rule was pretty much thrown out the window with my last girlfriend, who was definitely more gay than straight. It was a fairly unique set of circumstances; we worked together in the fashion industry, so we were already very shallow, visual creatures, and got paid to judge people on their appearance. She would point out women she thought were smoking hot, usually before I'd even noticed. Eventually I just joined in and it was all just a bit of fun.
Still, as I said, it was a fairly uncommon set of circumstances, and with the majority of relationships, this behaviour just doesn't go down well.

Well personally if its like a celeb i wouldnt mind so much but if its like random girls then thats rude. It really depends on like how his attitude about it is like if he says " shes was pretty." no big deal but if it's " DAMN!! that girl so so fuckin hot did you see the ass on her!?" and just keeps talking bout it then thats pretty much poo-tastic.

Either way tell him it bugs you. If he cares and respects you enough he will stop. If he doesnt then hes prob not worth your time.

Thanks Dektora, because obviously Melissa is a lot better than most women. Seriously, it's one thing to look and it's another to comment. That's pretty rude. What the hell does he gain from making his comments? What exactly is he looking for? His girlfriend to agree? He's purposely trying to make her jealous...Like all douchey guys do.

I don't get *jealous* when my boyfriend mentions another girl around is hot. However, I tend to notice attractive women before he does. I told him I don't care that he notices attractive girls...I notice attractive guys, too. But, when you start verbally acknowledging it to each other, that's when the relationship becomes a contest about who can make who more jealous. It's lame, and I wouldn't put up with it. Like I said...I don't get jealous when he mentions other females in front of me, it more so turns-me-off than anything. The only reason men need to verbally acknowledge other women in front of you is so you'll become jealous...preferably very obviously jealous. It's an ego boost for them. That's why it doesn't make me jealous when they're mentioning another chick's ass...it just flat out annoys me, and makes me not want to be around them, because to me, it tells me they lack the confidence that I find so attractive and they're just trying to re-gain your admiration. They want you to want them...it's a guy's way of gaining reassurance without having to demean his manhood by coming right on out and asking if you still dig him...plus your "jealousy" gives him something to pretend he dislikes when the next random confrontation arises. Act like you don't give a damn. Or just agree with him when he mentions it again. I can almost assure you that your apathy will concern him way more than your jealous, and his comments will absolutely lessen. Unless he's just a complete moron...which very well may be the case.

yes we all ""look" but we dont commemt espacially if your not MARRIED, married couples tend to be comfortable with this one bc they are MARRIED my sister is a great example, married for 9yrs and 2 kids shes acts more like a dude but at the same time she is comfortable bc she knows he loves her but ive seen a few times were she looks a little insecure bc she isnt small and doesnt have a playboy body....so in saying that my boyfriend would walk around saying who's hot, it was like a way to get a reaction out of me bc his last gf didnt care, she didnt care if he crossed a line with another girl, she was just trying to be the girlfriend that was cool with that, but guess whats wrong with this other girls would cross that line too and it leads to cheating....I told my bf to stop that i didnt go around checking out guys in front of him that its disrespectful and it honestly shows some of your true feelings about our relationship...he stopped and quickly got the point...oh and if he isnt telling you your hot but he will a stranger get on his butt bc thats wrong

I think it is disrespectful to say that sort of thing in front of your girlfriend. My current boyfriend used to talk about how other girls and celebrities are hot. He told me to just "get over it" but I plainly told him that I would never talk about another hot guy, or celebrity guy that I think is attractive in his presence simply because I respect him enough not to say those sort of things. I expect that level of respect in return. It has nothing to do with being insecure. I know other women are attractive, I notice them too. But it does not need to be discussed. It is just how you would never talk about your sex life in the presence your parents. In my opinion this sort of behavior should be avoided simply because it is inappropriate.

I point out cute girls for my boyfriend... I also allow/encourage him to have them over for the night if he wants. everyone has different rules for their relationship, but until she tells him its making her uncomfortable, or says that its ok, it will just add tension. you gotta make your rules known, not just assume people will guess them.

I used to date a guy that would talk about how pretty other girls were all the time .. even when we were making out or fooling around. It would just somehow come up. He very rarely would tell me I was pretty. Over time I just got sick of it and sick of him and didn't even feel like being around him. Another guy I dated would openly follow them with his eyes and whip his head around to watch a pretty girl walk by..tho he looked at ALL women regardless of shape/height etc.
Fast forward to now, I am with a man who treats me like gold. We both are really into each other and neither of us comments on other people .. I don't feel the need to because I'm totally happy with what I've got. We go out a lot cause I like to dance and of course there is all kinds of hoochie mamas prancing around and if he looks, I have yet to see it. He is a gentleman and respects me enough to at least not do it in front of me. He makes me feel beautiful and tells me all the time he loves my body and the way I look and THIS is the way it should be. So that if/when I do catch him looking it won't bother me in the least because I know he thinks I'm hot. I also think try to keep myself up .. I think that is important too considering men are visual. But the man you are with should love you for you .. yes they may look .. but they better make it clear it's you they are totally into.

My boyfriend talks about other girls sometimes. He talks about they're bra sizes. For example, last night we were on the phone and he was talking about this girl at his school, that he has told me about before (we go to different schools). He says she always wears a hoodie, but that day she didn't, and he noticed what big breasts she had. It kind of made me angry, well no, i did make me angry. Its okay if he notices other girls, but when he tells me about it, he makes me feel insecure and like he wants to be with someone else. He's also talked about his past relationships, one time he told me about his first make-out session with this girl he used to be with, in full detail! He can tell I get annoyed when he does it, and I know he wouldn't cheat on me, but it makes me feel like he is. I don't know what to do, I mean its not like I want to break up with him over this, but it makes me so mad! Its not like I don't trust him, because I do, but I just want this to stop.

I would not follow the advice of MM. I would follow dpain's advice. I have definitely tried MM's advice before. And it only becomes a stupid cycle of trying to make the other person see how hurtful their actions are WITHOUT actually communicating that to them directly. Just play it out in your head. Both persons will be trying to out due the others attempts of proving a point by making the other jealous.

Dpain suggests not playing into the situation by ignoring it. That way the other person learns that making comments like that gets no reaction, who wants to be ignored? Haha, that's actually how the childcare center I work at tells us how to teach kids--praise good behavior, ignore bad behavior.

Of course that method takes a lot of time and can painful until it finally works. Being silent and not expressive of your opinion causes a lot of innate strain that could also affect the relationship.

Brynneth makes a very good point which may get over looked since she encourages her boyfriend to comment on other girls. But the lesson there is : don't assume your partner knows what is and isn't ok to you. You tell your partner that you like the color blue and when they laugh out loud and their teddy-bear hugs, why wouldn't you tell them what bothers you?

But they are your partner, so the best way to deal with it is to talk to them about it. I would wait for them to do it again and say "Babe, why do you do that so often? I'm not your guy friends. Wouldn't it be weird if I was always shrieking with excitement about some guy at the gym with a tight amazing body? I don't think its tactful."

Whatever you decide to do. Don't settle and assume its not big deal. If it's bothering you it will affect your relationship in other areas so work on it before you're saying "I don't even know how we started this argument."

I've been in two relationships where guys have commented on other girls. The first one it happened way too much, the second one only a few times. The second one hurt almost more though because of all the hurt feelings I had from before being brought up again. What I've struggled with mostly is feeling guilty for feeling hurt, because I've been too concerned that this is my problem and I'm ruining things by not being able to get over these comments. I've also heard the whole, "well its just because you're insecure" thing.

Now I realize that yes the problem is that those comments made me feel insecure but that's not my problem. I did not and would not feel insecure if I did not hear my boyfriend talking about how hot he thought another girl was hot, or how he liked the summer because girls' wore less clothes, or how he liked watching tennis because the girls' make sounds like they're having orgasms, or how he liked going to certain restaurants because only hot girls' work there.

My biggest insecurity was that I was not true to my feelings and I put up with such bull shit, not that the comments hurt me. Being hurt by such things is natural, if you are in a relationship because you want to feel adored, which I'm pretty sure most people do. I also would never do or say anything that made my boyfriend feel insecure so it hurt even more since I was so considerate of his feelings. I don't think it's a good idea to play games, and try to make them stop that way. I believe that being completely honest and open is the best way to go, and if they don't respect your feelings then they are not worth it.

Also, please don't feel bad or feel like this is your problem. There is far too much emphasis in the world on the importance of being beautiful while at the same time there are far too many messages in all forms of media telling us we are not beautiful enough. The person who loves us should make us feel like the most beautiful Goddess in the world and no one else will do, therefore no one else is even worth mentioning.

Another thing is, I think there are far too many guys who make comments like this and far too many girls who say nothing because they don't want to show their insecurity or feel like they are upset by their boyfriends. If we all are open and honest and don't try to hide our feelings then perhaps this kind of thing will happen less.

everybody understands that everybody looks, but this is a lot of women's problem why cant men just look and do it discreetly why must they always be so vocal about it to their girlfriends? how many women do they have to piss off before they learn that we really don't want to know and we have most likely already spotted that really hot girl and are just waiting for you to notice her and say something to us we are already feeling insecure about it before the words are out of your mouths, its a matter of respect not having to point out every other woman that is hotter than your girlfriend leaving her wondering what it is in her that you see and left feeling like the constellation prize

things happen in many different ways. some guys act like this, and some guys act like that. some girls don't mind, and some do. we're all different because of our own feelings, thoughts, and upbringing. who's to say what's right or wrong. the only thing i can say with certainty is that if something makes you angry, makes you insecure, hurts you, or causes you stress, ur emotions, ur body is telling u that this isn't working for you.

it's not worth it ever to put up with something that hurts you if you have a choice, if you can change that situation. there are millions of guys out there. if ur not happy with one, cherish the memory and say good bye. TRUST ME, u'll be better off. u'll eventually find someone who makes you very, VERY happy.

it's going to hurt you in some way in the long run if u stay with a situation that hurts you. u'll lose sleep, u'll lose hair, u'll get depressed, u'll be sad. instead of growing into a beaming ray of sun like every human being deserves to, u might get sad and pessimistic about stuff. so if someone makes u sad, let them go. there's millions of other people out there :)

take care loves :)

I already asked my boyfriend after the first several times he commented on other women if I wasn't giving him enough attention. Did I misunderstand when he said he wanted a girlfriend? Does he prefer me to be one of his buddies? He said no to all three-that I was great and he loved me. Then I pointed out how every time he said something stupid in front of me about how another women looked, it put distance between us. He still doesn't get it because he still does it. I have been looking for an apartment ever since because I can't see myself with someone this dense.

hi! im having the same problem right now. well here's how it goes: me, my boyfriend and two guy friends were in a car and they were talking how these two officemates of ours are sexy and nice boobies. At first I was cool with it but then it came to a point where in I don't wanna hear it anymore. I just can't stand my boyfriend when he acted out how he will caress the boobs of one of our officemate. I got hurt seriously by that. Then when he noticed that I was quiet after that he asked me if I was OK? I just didn't answer him. I think guys are just so insensitive :( Is it ok to be angry now? coz I really felt insecure. Any thoughts on this? Should I tell him that its bugging me?

"MysteryMan," should spell touché better. Si vous parlez du français, vous devez l'écrire correctement. You're not as great with women as you think you think you are, bud. The girl needs to realize that her boyfriend doesn't realize she has a problem with it. She has to let him know first before she tries to "get back" at him. If a girl did that to me I probably wouldn't date her again.

later

My boyfriend feels when we go out he can't talk to me or take pictures but with other girls he can talk to them, and take pictures with them! He takes me out but doesn't bother talking to me but I'll see him chatting to another girl! Also i'v got real bad stretch marks and weight problems being under weight and he always used to look at me in disgust and used to comment on how I and my stretch mark looks! He always states at other girls and says to me that girl has nice legs! He knows i'm insecure as he has made perfectly clear I have bad stretch mark on my legs! I confront him and say why stare at girls and comment in front of me. He blames it on me and says I'm insecure, I'm the one with the prob, I'm crazy.. He also says if I continue to act insecure and jealous it will drive him to cheat!!!??? Am I the one in wrong???

In my personal opinion, looking is expected, and inner thoughts or comments are always okay. But verbalizing appreciation should ONLY be done when in the company of one's friends. If a girlfriend is present with her man (with other dudes or without), keep your mouth shut. It would be disrespectful to comment on another woman once you've asked THIS gal to be YOURS. It would be equally disrespectful for her to comment on other men in your presence. It may have nothing to do with jealousy or insecurity...it's about respect and dignity. Act like a man, not like an ape.

Professionally, couples will vary on what they find appropriate or inappropriate. So if there's friction or disagreement in this area, get talkin! Make your wishes or feelings known. If he/she can't respect your wishes, move it along. There are others out there who will. It isn't LOVE if he can't make small alterations for the good/wellness of the relationship.

In my personal opinion, looking is expected, and inner thoughts or comments are always okay. But verbalizing appreciation should ONLY be done when in the company of one's friends. If a girlfriend is present with her man (with other dudes or without), keep your mouth shut. It would be disrespectful to comment on another woman once you've asked THIS gal to be YOURS. It would be equally disrespectful for her to comment on other men in your presence. It may have nothing to do with jealousy or insecurity...it's about respect and dignity. Act like a man, not like an ape.

Professionally, couples will vary on what they find appropriate or inappropriate. So if there's friction or disagreement in this area, get talkin! Make your wishes or feelings known. If he/she can't respect your wishes, move it along. There are others out there who will. It isn't LOVE if he can't make small alterations for the good/wellness of the relationship.

My Boyfriend is so sweet to me and treats my son like his own. However, recently he has been checking out other girls and acting like it is cute and adorable when it is annoying and rude. When he gets my attention he usually plays it off or says " oh, she is UGLY!" I am like, " Hello!!" Do l look like a freikin dumb ass?? I told him it bothered me...and all he can say it that I am jelous! That is soo degrating to tell me I am jelous of a girl I dont know and is not even that pretty. WTF not to mention he checks out any blonde that has four legs! I cant stand it. I am brunette and proud of it! Should I just ignore him or do the same back? HELP

I recently experienced this with my boyfriend. After putting up with it for a year, I finally told him that it hurt me. He would always tell me how much he loved me and never wanted to hurt me, and when he heard how bad I felt about it he stopped. His excuse at first was that he just wanted me to be jealous so he could feel that I loved him, but later he acknowledged that he made a stupid mistake by making the comments and told me again that he would never do anything to hurt me. I am still getting over the things he said, but our relationship is getting better because he changed.
I don't recommend ignoring it like I did because it may never stop if he thinks you don't mind or find it fun. If you love him and want the relationship to work TELL him how you feel and if he loves you he will understand how bad he is making you feel and quit. It really comes down to if you want the relationship to work or not; A happy relationship does not have room for constant pain.

my boyfriend does this a hell of alot, his computer desktop is off a half naked model, his phone background yet again a half naked model, he has a man blog that he checks everyday whilst im in the room full of beautiful skinny thin models, and i feel horrible as im 5.2 curvy slim but nothing special!

i have low self esteem battling bulimia for years and for once i mentioned something to him, i said it makes me feel uncomfortable you doing it infront of me, and he apologised yes but then said it'll get easier with age, ok i half expected a selfish response for him to say your beautiful and everything but nothing of the sort.

And what made me more upset he comments on my tall skinny close mates that they're devastatingly beautiful, his never described me that way...I think its disrespectful and ill be truthful it makes me think even more to leave him but i feel vunerable

My bf always comments on how hot certain celebrities are and it makes me feel like Im not hot. I feel like a big pile of dog doo doo. I told him once that it makes me feel bad. He stopped for a while but I noticed that hes back at it again. So the other day I came home from work and told him that I saw a really hot guy at work. He got really jealous and said hes ugly and an idiot. Apparently my bf knows him. I laughed and then I said now you know how I feel. But that didnt stop him from saying that certain female celebrities are hot. Dont know what to do. We recently moved in together. Am I making a big thing out of nothing?

I'm going through the same type of thing. My bf will say how pretty certain celebrities are. The other night we were at the movies and he said " now THATS a pretty woman! " , just like that. It's not just the one comment though, he also commented that he could never imagine how any guy could cheat on Sandra Bullock due to the way she looks?... and when we first met, he made sure to tell me how 'very beautiful' his ex wife was. We went to a concert a few weeks ago and he constantly was looking around, ogling at other women. I've noticed this several times. I feel kind of childish saying something about it but truly, I'm mature enough to draw my own conclusions and I know most women would be very uncomfortable with this type of behavior too. It's just rude.Some thoughts should just remain our own and if we love someone, it is our responsibility to protect their feelings.
I know he'd hate it if I did it but I wont stoop to that level or treat someone else the way I hate being treated because them I'm no better. Instead, I'll just leave him and find someone who thinks I'm the most beautiful women in the room. Yes, I want it all. 100%, because I deserve it.

hey guys... help me out .... my boyfrnd alwys getz upset wen ny of his friends among d girls don talk to him... n alwys talks about a lost friend whom he liked.... but i dont like it wen he gets upset coz ov dem .. i mean ... y soo much importnc 2 her??!! :(

My boyfriend used to do the same thing... until he asked me if I thought a guy was hot. At that point, I thought, "Fine. If you want to play it like that, then whatever." So I began pointing out attractive guys. Not a lot, but enough. He has since stopped doing it. (At least so much. He is a guy, and "boys will be boys"...) MM is right. If it bugs you, it might bug him just as badly. Good luck!

my guy goes off about how hot it was fuckin his x's and i dont know what to say.. what do u do? i hung up on him and he said i needed to grow up and stop being jealous

my guy goes off about how hot it was fuckin his x's and i dont know what to say.. what do u do? i hung up on him and he said i needed to grow up and stop being jealous

My husband tells me out of the blue that our neighbor who moved away recently is not hard to look at. Then he goes on to tell me that she is the hottest woman with this name that he knows. He continues with, one day her husband was not home and he went to deliver something that he had ordered and had sent to our home and she opened the door in booty shorts and a nothing shirt and he had to hand it off and run home. Then he says her accent sent him over the top. I asked him if it was odd that he was sharing this with his wife and he said no and its not like i'm over there nailing her. He so I tell him I wish he wouldn't run around talking like this to everyone or people could begin to think that there are problems. He replies, well at least I am not like this other guy who is still looking for pictures of her online. I also told him this is odd to me and I don't know how to take it because it is not like you are talking about a celebrity that you most likely will never meet, you are not even talking about a stranger, its our old neighbor whom we may see again. Any suggestions?

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I gotten to a point where I was so insecure because of what my boyfriend would do infront of me. I found it so disrespectful that my boyfriend would say in front of me "ohh I see hotties over there" I was so hurt and I just ignore it. Until one year and I told him how disrespectful he is towards me. He told me I was just being a girl, that its not his fault ALL guys do it. BS! All boys do it. You don't need to turn turn check out her ass and boobs, ohh man god, so complicated. I told him he put me in position that made me feel so inseccure about myself and he's my bf he's not suppose to do that, he's suppose to make me feel beautiful. And he told me NONE of his past gf's ever bought it up so I would say some guys just are stupid ok. And some women just really don't mind, and some do mind when their boyfriends check out other girls.

Ive been married to my husband for 7 years and all he does is look. And his parents encourage it! Especially his mom. She is always saying to him.and to me.she's pretty,don't you think? Don't you wish you you looked like her? I always say no and to leave alone,but it never stops. He acts just like his dad,and whenever he sees a young girl(he's 35}he really checks her out and rubs it in my face! He ignores me and walks ahead of me anywhere we go.or when he does notice me,he runs me down,calls me fat and lazy and sats if I lost weight,which I'm trying to do,he would look at me more. I'm diabetic with underactive thyroid,and my weight goes up and down.I've told him how much he hurts me,but he doesn't care,I have had it with him and his stupid parents! I'm thinking of divorcing his ass once I get on my feet. I wish I could find someone that wouldn't rub it in my face that he looked at a pretty girl,but I guess I'm out of luck on that.

I have been with my husband for 7 years and all he does is look! And his parents encourage it! Especially his mom.She usually says"ain't she pretty?Don't you wish you looked like her? Or to her son."you think she's pretty? I do"Or something like that.Her husband does it to her,and so he does it to me. Every time a girl walks by he stares,and rubs it my face,and walks ahead of me to act like he's not with me. He stares at all these ho bag whores, and they're like high school age{he's35}I try to stay away from his folks cause when she says what she says,I get mad and tell her to leave me alone.I'm diabetic.trying to lose weight,and I have underactive thyroid.He says I'm fat and lazy and once or twice he told me if I lost weight he would look at me more.He is no Don Juan and several of my friends said I could do way better.I don't know though. I'm thinking of divorcing his ass once I'm able to leave.I'm so tired of a$$holes like these people hurting me all the time. I try to shrug it off but sometimesI can't.

I avoid looking at other men intentionally. Men should do the same. If you can't keep your eyes on your girl then be single.

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da same thing happened 2 me...he used 2 love me b4 ...nowadays he always find ma flaws...n i am feeling very bad when he talk about other girls..hw stylish and good luking they are..sometyms i feel lyk i dont deserve him ...lyk he deserve a betta gals..tat i should step back from his life..(-_-)

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It is common for men to make such comments. It's starting to happen to me with my bf . Now to put things into perspective I model and am so used to stripping down to my underwear comfortably and having others admire me or on the downside critique me and it has never bothered me. I may be contradicting myself but I object to the superficiality and hate how society makes people think if theyre not this or that then they are not attractive.
When my bf tells me and talks about how hot so and so is I feel insecure. It feels like he is putting me down and it really hurts because your bf should love you and be making you feel like your the only one that counts. It really makes me feel insecure and unimportant. In my eyes it is very disrespectful. I dont mention or comment about hot guys to him and yes I understand everyone looks its human nature but to bring it up in conversation is just not nice.
Remember it is whats inside that counts.

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I am a bit the opposite... my girlfriend does this to me quite often, and she thinks I'm insecure because it bothers me... but really... why would anyone like to hear how hot someone else is??? That doesn't make any sense! I don't do it to her out of respect, yes, we all know that there are other attractive people out there, but when you're with another person, you hope, wish and want that they only have eyes for you. I don't want to see my girlfriends jaw dropping to the ground when I'm around as she gawks at some hunk, who wants that... for either side. I guess more so lately it bothers me because I never hear how she thinks I'm hot, mostly she comments on how other guys are hot... yeah that bothers me. and now that I've told her it bothers me, she thinks I'm insecure... well, what if the shoe was on the other foot... maybe I should try to do it to her, and see how she likes it... I'm willing to bet that she doesn't.

I don't even look at other woman when we're out, why would I do that when the woman I love is sitting right in front of me?

Be respectful to the person you love!

i have the same problem!! My boyfriend would always tell me how hot a girl is (and that would happen A LOT, not just once in a while). I pretend I don't care, because I don't want him to think I'm insecure or jealous, because I'm not.it just bothers me, because yeah it's disrespectful. I've tried to point out guy that I thought were attractie but he just started arguing with me how " I have no standards if i think that guy is hot". EVERY TIME! What's that supposed to mean? Is he trying to make me jealous? He's really confident about himself but I think thats just a cover, you know...because if he reacts that way when i talk about attractive guys...well, that must be insecurity, right? I don't understand guys, seriously.s

What about this scenario. You're happy to see ur boyfriend because you didnt see him all weekend. His friends are with him, that really arent your friends. Then he talks to one of his guy friends and tells him " Hey you should come work where I work, there's this hot girl with really huge tits" and just talking about how good looking she is. Then I asked about her and he tells his friend.."I'll tell you more later." I'm not one to say anything, so I just stayed quiet the rest of the time..then later he asks me if i'm ok??

I have the same problem with my boyfriend. I don't feel bad about it when, for example, we see a hot girl on the street and we comment on her together, so when he says "Oh, look at her", I say "Yeah, she's hot", because I think it's normal for everyone to look at someone else who is hot, but I think everyone should have a limit, so when my boyfriend crosses that limit and look at a girl like he never saw a hot girl before and sighs and make too much comments about it, I get really mad, and I told him that everyone should have a limit. I don't have big boobs or a big butt, but I think that I AM hot, I'm not skinny and I'm not fat, I like my body the way it is, and I told him that when he crosses the line, he unconsciously makes me feel bad about myself, and he says that I'm crazy and that he does like my body, but - in his words - there is something about 'plastic' girls that make men think about sexual stuff. Most of men never grow up, that's why he acts like that. I think you should take Mistery Man's advice (I think I'll try it too), but you have to remember that it's not you who have to change and you have to love yourself the way you are, and say that to your boyfriend, tell him that you love your body and what he sees is what he gets, but if he still acts like a child, you'll have to lower yourself on his level and act similar and see does it bother him. Maybe it sounds mean, but I don't think there's another way if he ignores your feelings about it.

Someone help me out here. I've been dating a VERY jealous, insecure man for 1.5 years. I posted a video on Facebook about gourmet food several months ago, and the video happened to contain a short snapshot of a voluptuous young woman wearing a cropped pizza delivery t-shirt with the lower part of her breasts hanging out and tiny snug shorts. The entire video was 4 minutes long; the pizza girl photo was shown for about 6 seconds.

My jealous bf commented on the FB post that he wished the pizza delivery girls that came to his house looked like that! I was MORTIFIED! I called him on this nasty comment and he turned on me, saying it was MY fault that he made that comment because I posted a revealing video and that I should EXPECT comments like this! After a few days he apologized for his stupid behavior and promised to never say something so mean again.

Well, it just happened again. He told me he thinks a certain singer/celebrity has a HOT body! It threw me off because I know him; he would explode in anger if I were to say such a thing about another man. So that's just what I did: I told him that if that's how he's going to talk to me, I'll talk to him the same way, and I told him I find a certain celebrity super hot! Now he is not speaking to me and is on the verge of ending our relationship. He said he's very upset that I "upped the ante" by insulting him, and that I'm acting like a 9-year-old. (This really feels like a mind f-ck!)

He then went on to say that his female celeb is a piece of trash and is very immoral, and that should let me know that he doesn't "want" this celeb, but that she has a very nice body. He expected me to say the same about my male celeb, but I refused. I told him it didn't matter if that girl is immoral, that it's irrelevant. What matters is that he finds her sexually attractive and chose to tell me, the woman that he's supposed to love and wants to marry someday.

I am NOT and never have been a jealous person. I just expect to be treated the same way that he expects to be. Any thoughts? I would especially love to hear some male opinions. I need a man's point of view here. (My brother is horrified by my bf's comments. He said that's something a guy says to his buddies, not to his gf!)

i hate it when men do this :( it really makes me sad because my boyfriend does it, and he checks girls out daily, and looks at them, and then tells me to wear more makeup, and mentions girls to me, and always talks about "sluts" and uses the term sluts, and then he goes and tells me... i love you, ... but then says "you need to take better care of yourself" and i'm like, dude i shower every day, i am fit, i fix up my hair, put on a nice amount of makeup, have clear skin, and dress nice, and you here are the person with yellow teeth, you don't shower every single day, and you wear the same clothes all the time and don't even do your laundry .WTF who are you to talk! If you wanna look at girls who wear mini shorts and dresses with huge heals and have their fake all caked up, when what are you do with me. Why are you telling me to cake my face full of foundation and put on darker thicker eye liner. I'm just so pissed. Why do i have to be the one to change to keep him happy, he isn't doing anything to keep me happy. His appearance is crappy, he has yellow teeth, and blackheads, but way too much confidence. I am so mad at him!!!!!!! it's not fair, i shouldnt have to be the one to make things work, he should have to work as much as i do too! i'm so angry and i hate it but love him at the same time, and i hate feeling this way and living this way and dealing with all this. BTW this is the only relationship i have been in even and we have been together for almost 3 years now.

Totally OT, but watching Race to Witch Mountain (remake) with hubs and the little dude and just saw Kim Richards from BH in a cameo as a waitress. She didn't suck.

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