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My boyfriend tells me he refuses to get married until he's 35. This is 9 years away and i would be 38. Is it worth staying hoping that he may reconsider his timeframe or should I cut and run if that does not work for my time frame?

I'd give it some more time. "I'm not getting married until I'm 35" is what every twenty-something guy says at some point. 35 is an arbitrary age for him right now. It's the go-to age for people in their twenties when they're talking about settling down and being a grown-up. He probably means, "I'm going to be married by 35," but he won't actually say that because he thinks that's what women in line for Eat, Pray, Love say and he wouldn't be caught dead at that movie.

So 35 could mean 32, or 34, or even 28. He'll be ready when he's ready. Right now, he's not ready. That doesn't mean he won't change his mind in a couple of years. Anyone who says they have the rest of their life planned out at 26 is full of it. Various factors go into a guy's decision to propose (work, family, that crazy little thing called love) and there is no way of telling when he'll be ready to pop the question. 

Basically, he's saying that he wants to live his life, have a girlfriend, and not want to be married for a while. If you're looking to get married in the next year or so, maybe this guy isn't for you. On the other hand, if you are happy in the relationship, give it some more time. He might realize that you're his one and only and actually propose sometime before 2019. If you stay together and things aren't moving forward at all (he never wants to move in together, never drops hints about your future), then perhaps you should consider whether or not he's the right guy for you. Worry about whether or not you're actually compatible and forget about your "timetable" for a bit. If he's not following any sort of timetable within a reasonable amount of time (say, a couple years into the relationship), then it might be time to bail.
 
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