Wow, what a douche move from a so-called friend. Yes, you should absolutely tell your boyfriend. He needs to know that this guy is 0% friend and 100% asshat. Real friends don't try to pork a buddy's girlfriend.
The length of time they've been friends is irrelevant, as is the length of time you've been dating. Even if they'd been pals for 50 years and you two had only been on one date, wrong is wrong, and your guy needs to know the truth. I guess there's always an outside chance he'll believe the person he's known the longest, but hopefully he's smarter than that. Why would you make up such a story?
I realize you might feel guilty about breaking up their friendship, but you aren't. The friend did that when he chose to hit on you. I also realize it would be easier just to let it slide -- no one likes drama -- but that would be putting your need to avoid conflict ahead of your boyfriend's need to know the truth. He trusts a guy who is making a fool of him. You can't let that continue another day. Who knows what other twatty things this guy has done behind your boyfriend's back? A dude who will make a pass at a buddy's girlfriend is capable of almost anything.
This one's a no-brainer. You have to tell him so he can unload this piece of shit and flush it out of his life. He won't like it, but telling him is the right thing to do. Unfortunately for all of us, the right thing is usually the hardest thing.
I'd think it would be very difficult to ever be around this guy in the future if you don't tell your boyfriend what has happened. You'd never be able to trust him again. What a creep. That's definitely not something that a friend would do.
i feel like he might have been joking? or drunk??
That's no excuse. Truth is often told in jest and most people are more likely to tell the truth when intoxicated. So, it does not excuse it. She needs to tell him ASAP. The longer she waits, the worse things can get. He might tell her boyfriend that SHE made a pass at him, because she turned him down.
"...unload this piece of shit and flush it out of his life." Brilliant! This is why I love you, Cary.
Best answer I've heard on this site!!!
I love the tag "oh no you didnt"
Kudos Cary. WINNER for "Best use of the word DOUCHE" in a reply.
Good riddance to this gal's boyfriend's boy friend. He is sleezy at best.
There is that chance he was testing his dude's girl's loyalty and was planning on reporting it back to his friend. Keep that in mind so I definately would tell. If you don't and this was a test, you will look shady not the douche friend. Eitherway, you should tell. If you are uncomfortable, just put it like this: Your friend may have been joking but said "blah blah" and it made me feel uncomfortable. You know him better than I do so I thought I would let you know just in case."
Men don't have friends try and bang their gf's as a test. Maybe if they wanted a blameless breakup, but not a test. If I'm wrong and that was some sort of test she should drop the drama douche.
Exactly. You took the words out of my mouth. Next time wash your hands first, please. Thanks.
Yeah I didnt figure the Bf asked his friend to do that. I have just known a guy who took it upon himself to do that to try and prove his buddy's gf was a cheater.
Interesting. If the person has their best friend trying to test their girlfriend, perhaps they need to ask themselves this: if I don't trust this person, then why am I with them?
what about an ex boyfriend that you are still friends with and his friend does this, is that still a case where you should let them know. ??????
Awesome answer . True the dude could have tested her. Sweetie do the right thing