Either he's a budding stylist or he has problems with his own self-image and self-esteem. Usually when someone constantly attacks something about his/her partner they are really projecting something that they hate about themselves or some hang up they have, which has nothing to do with you.
In this case, I'm assuming your boyfriend doesn't shave his legs so that is not what he has a problem with internally. What he may really be saying is that when you don't shave your legs his friends might notice, which will embarrass him because he needs you to be perfect in order to maintain his friend's envy or some such thing. His ego is driving him to badger you. Do you see what I'm getting at?
Next time he says anything rude like this to you, ask him, "What is it about yourself that's bothering you?" He may not tell you, but it may get him thinking in the right direction.
tell him to go fist himself..even better
I kind of give MM a hard time on this site, but for this answer, I only give him kudos as I think he's dead on. Your man sounds like he's a little boy who really needs his girlfriend to make him look awesome. Bottom line: LAME.
However, I do have to say, the examples given are really stupid/"fixable" things. Essentially, I wouldn't call them flaws. To me, a "flaw" from *his* perspective may be small boobs (or too big--everyone has their preference), thick ankles, bad skin, stuff that a girl can't really do anything about. Comments on these things would make him an even bigger douche so I wonder if he's (in an awful and dumbass way) trying to ask his girl to clean up a little more? Which, given how often I hear women complain about their guys being slobby, wouldn't be too much to ask of a partner.
We don't know the specifics of this situation though, so I'd stick to the real point, which is that if it bothers you, you should talk to him about it first before making any other assumptions.
Even if someone thinks their partner could benefit from shaping up in whatever area, the way to do it is by positive encouragement - not criticizing/pointing out their flaws.
My last b/f made a number of these kinds of comments, the "best" one being: "So...sometimes it bothers me that I don't have anything to brag about when I talk about you." (Seriously, he said that.) That definitely didn't get me thinking in the direction of how to better myself - just the opposite, it was a huge blow to my self-esteem. (It was only later that I wondered why he was with me at all if he felt that way? He was the one who pursued me in the first place...).
It depends whether he's asking her to change for his own reasons, or because he wants to encourage her to be her best because he cares about her.
what a creep ... If someone said that to me I'd have my bitch switch set to destroy lmao. He obviously had his own set of insecurities. When people do that, it has very little to do with you
I agree with you completely, SmR. I hope my comment isn't being misconstrued as it's ok for him to just point out all of her "flaws" and expect her to change them for him. If he wants that, then he doesn't deserve to be with someone. Ugh... can I just retract the middle paragraph to my comment? I was only thinking of the times when I've had my girl friends complain about how sloppy their boyfriends got and that it would be nice if they'd shave more often...
Maybe he's just holding her to basic standards of hygeine. Most people make an extra effort with people they're going out with to look good and clean and maybe he is put off that she doesn't care enough to shave her legs, I mean common. Its not like he called her fat or ugly, or anything that was out of her immediate control. I find that girls are made to be so insecure in western culture that some interpret every little peice of constructive criticism as a personal attack when it wasn't intended that way
Another thing to consider is maybe her bf buys in to the stereotype that girls dig being treated like shit (its scary how often I hear this falacy from friends and guys my age) in which case he's a douche and you should probably pick something he's insecure about (height, dick size, hairline, muscles, etc) and go to town. But be subtle and feminine about it like- i swear that'll do the trick and then some
You really better oughta reevaluate your relationship...because as sad as it is you will probably never ever be good enough for him. Didn't you ever see Legally Blonde? As soon as he finds the right girl that can do nothing wrong in his eyes he'll drop you like a hot potato. I'm mean do you really want to go on hearing that day to day and having him pick at you like he is in control of you? Control is not love honey.
He might be pointing out those little things because he is concerned about you not taking care of your self. Instead of him being a jerk you might have a boyfriend who loves you so much that he is just trying to make sure you are ok. It might be a weird concept but he could be looking out for your well being, even if it does seem negative.
Think about where he may be coming from, did you recently stop shaving your legs and are you normally really put together? He might just be worried about a change or something he sees as unhealthy behavior.
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