Initially, yes, you’re father is right. The majority of men approach women who they find physically attractive. And in that regard, looks are very important to men. And sad to say, weight is a big factor in how most men will look at a woman.
Now of course there are some men out there with a thing for bigger women (we call them chubby chasers). And yes, they pretty much have to find you.
I like women who are more slender with some cusion for the pushin’. Namely, I appreciate a thicker woman. However, overweight? I just can’t see myself actively pursuing an overweight woman. Hell, I can’t see myself even trying to sleep with an overweight woman just for kicks. It’s just not my MO.
However, a lot of that is based just on physical attraction. It is totally possible to meet a guy in some place where the initial focus isn’t on the physical but on the mental. The mind is an intricate organ. We’ll meet a woman we normally wouldn’t be interested in, talk to her and somehow decide that we’re attracted to her despite our initial leanings. It happens all the time.
I think where this is going is this: would losing weight help you find a man? Well yes and no. It might increase the number of suitors, but that doesn’t necessarily mean any of that will pan out. Now, if you are overweight, losing weight is probably the right way to go anyway, for health reasons, but also, is your weight a source of low-esteem?
Let me tell you, the MOST attractive women out there are those with a healthy sense of self-esteem, no matter how big or small. There is something sexxy about an aware, confident woman who is satisfied with herself and lets the world come to her. Jill Scott, a woman of larger proportions (lol) is one of the sexiest women I can think of because she exudes so much confidence and i’m-alright-ness. If you approach life from that angle, it might work wonders. I’m sure you’re a lovely person, so be that person. Be happy with yourself and the men will come. And they’ll come for the right reasons and with the right intentions. I know I would. A bright confident smile is noticeable and attractive from across the ocean.
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