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My ex insists on keeping in touch when I've told him I need time to get over him then we can attempt at being friends. He doesn't seem to get it when I say it the nice way. What can I do to get my point across? I don't want to cuss him out or be super rude!

I think he gets it. What's not to get about "I need you to leave me alone"? He's not letting go because he doesn't want to let go. I don't think it matters how you ask him--nicely, rudely, cursing him out--he's not going anywhere.

You don't explain the details of your breakup or why he won't let go, but it's irrelevant. If you truly want to be isolated from him, you have to do it yourself. You have to get tough and cut him off. Ignore his attempts at communication. If they persist, block his e-mail, his text number, his IP address, whatever. Change your phone numbers if necessary. Do what you must.

I know it seems cruel, but he is refusing to give you something that you've requested repeatedly. You've been patient. Now you have to be tough and take care of your own mental health. He won't like it, but he shouldn't be surprised by it. I don't know what effect this might have on your future friendship, but that's not important right now. Do what you have to do today to get the peace you need.

Thanks for the question.

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imjustagirl

Don't reply to his attempts at contacting you. He knows you will, so he continues to do so. It maybe hard, but if you truly want to be left alone, you will have to avoid all communication.

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This just happened to me. I had to block his phone number.

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Well maybe If I give you more info you'll be able to help me more. We have had an on and off again relationship for nearly 5 years. During one of our breaks he had another gf and came back. Now he said he didnt want a title and that titles were for jr high kids (we are 23) he said he wanted to be on the road to marriage already but why no titles? To me that was fishy so I chose to just move on. No titles is shady right?? I mean it made me feel like just a backup girl until he finds someone else. When I told him that he just said I wasn't. But it all felt like empty words and false hope in a future together

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DTMFA! That is some nonsense he gave you about not wanting titles. You are correct, he just wants you as a back up. He has you until he finds someone else. Just delete him off Facebook/Twitter/YouTube/any other social media. Put his number in your phone as Do Not Pick Up. Don't answer any calls or texts. Tell your mutual friends, to not give him any info about your life.

He should get the message then.

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