My ex won't leave me alone. We broke up a year ago and because the break up was so bad (he sent hate messages for a week) I told him I couldn't be just friends with him. A few months ago he started sending me messages again. I tried answering the first few to ask him to please leave me alone, but he won't stop. Thoughts?
Cary McNeal answered Anonymous's question on
November 9, 2012 5:15 PM
Go to the police immediately. You are being stalked, and your guy sounds dangerous. (Who sends hate messages for a week after a breakup? That's not normal.)
Go to the authorities before this gets worse. Yes, it's a big step, but your guys sounds unstable to me. Don't take any chances.
Thanks for the question.
Am I the only one who thinks Cary's answer here sounds a bit extreme. Not trying to belittle the situation but there must be something she can do before bringing the cops into it maybe?
I agree with Cary -- I would call the police. She's asked him to stop, he has refused to do so. They can have a conversation with him and if needed, she can file a restraining order. She sounds afraid and he sounds like he could be violent. Better safe than sorry.
Who could be bothered with the stress of involving the police? Change your phone number and e-mail address, block him on facebook. Oh and don't answer his messages.
Sometimes guys like that are persistent and it doesn't hurt to be extra careful.
If anyone she keeps in contact with doesn't know that this guy is being so creepy, they might dish out to him some info on her whereabouts or means of getting in touch with her. Better safe than sorry.
although (been there done that) the police won't help without an actual threat, and then even then they will suggest a restraining order (which can be hard to get). my policeman friend told me to change my numbers, and my habits of the places I go and when. It's a pain to have to rearrange your life because some guy is being a jerk, but your safety could depend on it. (His name isn't Steve, is it?)
You may be able to enlist help from a mutual friend he respects to get him to back off.
above all.... DO NOT RESPOND!
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