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My fiance is the love of my life. We work so well together. He helped me work through my body insecurities and trust issues, HE made me feel like a queen. Recently He admitted to the fact that he looks at porn AND Facebook pictures of my friends. This was so out of the blue and something I couldn't fathom. What now?

Porn - no real problem. Every guy does that. As long as he isn't obsessive about it, don't worry. In the archives is a very good post on why guys look at porn, which is a very good read. Wise Ass knows all about porn. (just kidding mate!)

The Facebook creeping your friends, on the other hand, is creeping me out a bit. Tell him to cut that crap out now.
Not, as you might think, because he is leching after your friends, but because he shouldn't be in their business in the first place. It implies something of a lack of trust and respect to me.

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chrissie1101

I'd be okay up to the friends thing too. glad someone else used the word creepy!

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Um, yeah. I'm kind of more creeped out by the fact that he would even /tell/ you he looks at your friends. Why in the world would you want your fiancee to know something like that?? It could only (and DID only) lead to stress and hurt for you.

It's only natural that he's going to think a few of your friends are attractive. But you don't need to know about it. I wonder how he would feel if you told him you creeped on HIS friend's pictures? Probably not great.

Like MM said, I guess just have a talk with him. Oh, and please don't worry about the porn part. I would be way more concerned about a guy who /didn't/ look at porn at least occasionally.

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At least he was honest with her about it.

Mystery Man

A very good point to bear in mind.

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Did no one else read that as fb and porn of the friend?

Kelsey

I'd appreciate the openess about it atleast, even if it is pretty creepy. To me its a little more uneasy to think that he's going through your friends photos secretly/without you knowing. Now that you know, like MM said, definetly tell him to cut that out!

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