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my fiancee told me to shut the f up after he was rude to the waiter. he then told me he doesn't give 2 sts about me. The vacation was over, and so is the engagement . did i overreact?

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The only one-word response you'll ever need to that question.

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MM's answer needs nothing else. However, I have a question: how the eff did you end up engaged to him in the first place?

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Oh, I am sure he was all charming when they first met. Plus I bet he's very good-looking and we tend to be very forgiving when attractive people act like jerks.

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you definitely didn't overreact, you did exactly what you should have done and you should be proud. most women who get that far in a relationship with a guy who would say something like that will rationalize it away, but you had the good sense and courage to see it for what it is: first class douche-baggery. kudos to you. now go find someone who deserves you

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For that matter guys do too, in fact we probably put up with more and for longer than women do. Probably due to a combo of low self-esteem and a pretty face.

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Ok i know your supposed to be the mystery man but your short uninteresting, and uncaring answers are getting to be really annoying. Why does this website even pay you for those crappy answers? I think its time to retire your character and introduce a new guy. ASAP

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What more needs to be said? He was rude to the waiter then inexcusably to her. The one-word two-letter answer is the most perfect answer for this question.

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Why do all questions have to be some long paragraph response? She asked, basically, if she over-reacted. Which is, basically, a yes or no question. So it only needs one answer.

Besides, if you don't like MM's responses to things, then don't look. The 'x' button is for that use really -_-.

Tariana

sue sounds like someone who didn't get her question answered even if she posted it to every guy here on GuySpeak, and then when she finally did get an answer, it wasn't the answer she wanted to hear. (LOL)

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Not at all, I just find all his answers to many questions short and unhelpful. People don't ask questions on this sight to get a yes or no answer, they are looking for some insight they for some reason can't get from their friends or family. An outside perspective. And from a business standpoint its a little silly that all the guys on here besides mystery man take the time to post paragraph long answers and mystery man skates by with one word or one sentence answers. Hope he doesn't get paid as much as the other guys do.

chrissie1101

in the world of the Internet, from a business standpoint, the number of times content is updated on a site is more valuable to the overall long term success of the site than the length of content that is updated on the site, just wanted to point that out to you. that and, unless you are signing the paycheck you have no business telling anybody how do to their job or how much they should be getting paid.

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Haha the customer is already right regardless of content, so yes it is important what us supporters of the sight think if readers stop going to the sight because the answers arent worth reading that is losing business. shouldn't you know this if your going to talk about it? And yes I can comment on how much they get paid, if you didn't notice this is the comments section and I am welcome to say what I like as is everyone. You don't have to like what others say but they have the freedom to say it.

chrissie1101

By continuing to come back here and flap your gab about it you are only proving the site is not losing any business as a result of your complaints. If you have a legitimate complaint for any business, there are ways to go about it. But this post is about a fairly serious issue, a woman has just lost her fiance, and the only reason I am giving you any attention at all is because it really freaking irritates me when someone's selfish sense of entitlement attempts to steal someone else's thunder so to speak and detract from the main issue by complaining about what they feel they are owed. Get over yourself, MM owes you nothing. And by the way, it is spelled "site" not "sight".

I am done with this ridiculous conversation, but to sum, I will feed you your own words, "I am welcome to say what I like as is everyone. You don't have to like what others say but they have the freedom to say it."

Exactly. The First Amendment applies to everyone, little one, including the authors here, not just you.

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Whatever, you put me down because i ranted a bit and expressed an opinion but then you also took the time to rant for a whole page, so say what you will. but please don't call me little one, its very condescending and rude, thanks

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I think with answers like this MM is making a point... the answer really is just no. absolutely no. she didn't act for clarification or insight, she just wanted to know that she did the right thing. He said what he needed to say to give her that

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Yep. This is a question where no analysis is needed, no explanation, no insight.

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OK, I've gone back and read the archives during times I was really bored and had lots of time to kill, like my 24-hour layover at Dubai airport. It's inaccurate to say MM always gives short answers. There's been answers he wrote essays, then there's been very short answers like this one. If, and I mean IF he always gave one-word or one-sentence answers, you *MIGHT* have a valid complaint. But many times less is more. Many times, there's more in the answer than the mere words; particular words or use of words do convey meaning beyond the words themselves. In this question, all the OP wanted to know is if she overreacted to her fiance's inexcusable behavior, to which MM simply said know, and everyone else here agrees. A one-off rudeness to a waiter could be forgiven but telling your woman to "shut the 'F' up and you don't mean 2 sh*ts to me" certainly is an on-the-spot dumping offense.
Agreed, from a business standpoint, businesses should listen to customer feedback, since customers in a very real sense do sign the paycheck. Sam Walton said it best; the customer is the boss of the company since he can fire everybody from the CEO to the janitor simply by taking his money elsewhere. But, feedback is used collectively. This means what you or I say alone means squat, only if a significant amount of the customers are making the suggestion does a company need to consider.

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I wish u saw his response to my question. His words have given me so much strength and hope that I will always be thankful to him. I think some answers say a lot even when they're simply stated in a word; this being one of them.

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Not no, but hell no!!!

chrissie1101

take note, ladies, this is what a woman with self esteem looks like. congratulations on your disengagement.

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Wow. This is a perfect example of how sometimes less is more.

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All depends if it was out of character. On the other hand, you might be the kind who gives as good as she gets, if not worse. I've seen that before. It ain't pretty to witness, but some couples operate like that; they need the excitement.
I'm considered calm and mousy, but every so often I lash out at my nearest and dearest when i've been really upset with them, but just bitten my tongue for ages to keep the peace. I feel dreadful afterwards. Look, trust your gut. Nobody knows the ins and outs of your relationship except you.

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Well, that puts my story of how I was crushing on this guy all through tenth grade until he stole the tip the rest of us left for the waitress after we sat there drinking coffee all morning all to shame. Good for you for dumping this grade A phucquewit.

SomeEverydayNobody

If I were you I'd be glad it's over. If he doesn't give two shits about you before marriage I can't imagine he's gonna start caring once he's got a ring on his finger.

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