Try not to worry. For one, he's probably thinking the exact same thing. Blind dates are so quaint! These days with online dating, you basically know everything about the person before the date. This is like the pre-Internet dating no-man's land, when women used to answer ads in the personal column in the newspaper looking for a "SWF" (single white female, for the youngsters). You could be meeting your soulmate! Or just some guy you'll have dinner with once and never see again. But the mystery is exciting! What if it's Mystery Man?? (It won't be Mystery Man.)
So relax, be yourself, and have fun. Like I said, he's worrying about the same things. What if we don't hit it off? What if she isn't attractive? What if she is, and she's not into me? Trust that your friend knows your type and wouldn't set you up with some monstrous dude that looks like one of the White Walkers from Game of Thrones. There's no guarantee you'll hit it off, but you won't know unless you give it a try.
Why not have your friend text you 15 minutes into the date to see how it's going? If you're not feeling it, you can say your friend is having an emergency and needs you and bail. But if you like him, then quickly text her back and let her know you don't need an intervention. Look at it as an opportunity to meet someone new. The more you put yourself out there-- be it online dating, going to parties, and, yes, even blind dates-- the more likely you are to meet someone. And, again, at worst, it's one date. Just remember that he's as nervous as you are, and have fun. Go in with an open mind and hopefully you'll be pleasantly surprised.
So relax, be yourself, and have fun. Like I said, he's worrying about the same things. What if we don't hit it off? What if she isn't attractive? What if she is, and she's not into me? Trust that your friend knows your type and wouldn't set you up with some monstrous dude that looks like one of the White Walkers from Game of Thrones. There's no guarantee you'll hit it off, but you won't know unless you give it a try.
Why not have your friend text you 15 minutes into the date to see how it's going? If you're not feeling it, you can say your friend is having an emergency and needs you and bail. But if you like him, then quickly text her back and let her know you don't need an intervention. Look at it as an opportunity to meet someone new. The more you put yourself out there-- be it online dating, going to parties, and, yes, even blind dates-- the more likely you are to meet someone. And, again, at worst, it's one date. Just remember that he's as nervous as you are, and have fun. Go in with an open mind and hopefully you'll be pleasantly surprised.
Good luck and I hope it works, I think he's right, the more you put yourself out there, the more people you will meet - thats kind of my problem, but a few months back, I was in the same scenario, but my friend hooked me up with her cousin. I hung out with him several times and it went no where. I didn't think a relationship with him would work. He was very nice but too quiet and timid that he unable to make a move after 6 dates - she told me she had to tell him to hug me after our 3rd date!! - and being inexperienced with dating like I am and also being so shy I just think it wasn't working. After a few dates, when my friend asked how things were going, I told her I didn't think he was interested in me but she kept telling me how he was so interested, give him a chance, etc. I think I hung out with him one more time but I haven't seen/heard from him since. Which obv. isn't a big deal. Haven't heard from my "friend" either, but she's kinda flaky to begin with, so I didn't feel obligated to marry this guy or anything, haha Just go with the flow and see where it goes. You're not meant to marry/date every guy you meet, and I'd say if it doesn't work out, at least you'll have experience with blind dates!! :)
Very true. And if the date is a total disaster, at least she'll have a funny blind date story to tell friends.
If it's a good friend's good friend and there's no attraction, then you'll probably end up 'friends'.
"What if it's Mystery Man?? (It won't be Mystery Man.)" ->Way to go raising up MM fans' hopes here, CG! ;)
You'll never know how it would turn out unless you go.
As for the texting part, it's best you do it in the ladies' room instead of in front of the guy (manners) to let your friend know how you're doing (bring in your purse to actually do some touching up). So you do the texting first any time of the night for the "Save me!" or "Thanks!" message to your Cupid of a friend. ;)
Just be yourself, enjoy and good luck!
There is an app for that!
Seriously, its FakeCaller by Hot Potato & let’s you place a fake call to yourself. you can insert any name on it you want to show up on your screen. You can have the call come from your mom or even the boss! You basically take the call & it gives you an excuse to bale. “Sorry.., it’s my boss. I have to go!”
Definitely have a "get out of jail free" call available. When I was younger (before the age of texting and cell phones) when I was on a horrible date, I would make up an excuse to call my parents and tell them to either tell me to come home right away or to come pick me up. Then I would tell my date that I absolutely had to go home because {insert excuse here} and that my parents were on their way to pick me up or that my date had to bring me home asap. But I definitely like the texting option or the fake call if things aren't going well. But just try to relax and enjoy yourself. If you think about it it is probably only an hour or two of your time and if there is just no connection then you don't have to agree to go out again.
Don't you all not think the whole "fake call it's an emergency" been overplayed just a bit? It's in every sitcom, movie... everything! We're gunna have to think of a new escape, how about... "god I'm sorry, this must sound strange, but I have to go... there's my ex over there, and I just can't be here". etc :-)
Fake texting is much more discreet. You don't have to leave the table.
But, yeah, you can always be honest and say you're not feeling it. Spare him the embarrassment of trying to set up a second date.
Although the text/call idea will work, he'll figure out what happened. It should be an insufferable guy for me to do this, but yeah, sometimes it's needed....
how about honesty as the escape? this is exactly why games are still so prevalent today, seriously! treat potential dates like potential new hangs with friends. nobody goes into a friendship wondering if the person is going to be attractive enough or worrying about the chemistry. you go into those with no expectations and hope for the best. if you do that, AND are yourself, the relationship either will or won't happen naturally depending on chemistry, which you CANT fake or prepare for. just be the fabulous self your friend knows enough to setup with someone else, and see what happens. you have no obligations to make this the best date for someone else, the only obligation you have is to yourself. set yourself up for an awesome night,, if it doesn't work, consider it good practice, nothing more, nothing less, and good luck!
I agree. If the date's really awful, can't you just excuse yourself and say "sorry, I'm not sure this is working" or something? And if it's not the best but not horrible, then just wait it out and consider it good practice like chrissie said.
Agreed. If she's comfortable with being honest, then go ahead and nicely tell him that you're not feeling it. But most guys will get the idea if you all of a sudden have to bail. Yeah, at worst, it's one bad date. Then if he calls and asks for a second, she can say she's not interested in dating him.
even the most comfortable and confident girls are nervous about being honest, and sometimes it could backfire. I had a guy tell me that only made him like me more and i just kind of went, oh great in my head lol but the whole texting/backup plan thing, stuff like that i have just found that drags something out that shouldn't be. why make any guy go through all of the grueling wondering and waiting if you're just not that into him. we as women HATE IT when men do that to us. maybe as a first blind date for this asker something short and sweet if it is just her and the guy, like coffee or lunch, i think most people know when the chemistry isn't there. or, a group date with the friend that is setting her up, any situation where there is no pressure or expectation.
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