That's a tough situation, but an easy answer: obviously you should be faithful. I assume she's cutting you off for religious reasons. Whatever the reason is, I'm sure it's important to her to wait. And if you love her, it'll be worth the wait. Why throw away your relationship for some meaningless sex?
Are you engaged? How long are we talking here? Were you having sex, and she all of a sudden decided that she wanted to wait? If it's only a matter of months or a year before your wedding, I'm sure you'll survive. If you aren't engaged, and she just wants to wait, you might want to consider whether she's the right person for you. Because if it's just an open-ended "I want to wait until marriage" sort of thing, that's a fundamental issue that needs to be addressed. If you don't intend to marry her, why stay together? Unless you share her faith, that could cause tension and perhaps lead you to cheat. And she doesn't deserve that.
If she's the person you want to spend your life with, the way to get through this (besides porn) is to remember that you love her and it will all be worth once you're married. You will be the better person for doing this for her. Think of it as character building. Also, I assume she'll still want to fool around. Use this time to rediscover the lost art of foreplay. Blowjays, handies, 69's, 24-7's (okay, I made that one up)...these are best friends right now. Pretend like you're back in high school, when you were lucky to even get to second base. Sex is great, but I'm sure you've gone through dry spells in the past and survived. You'll be okay. Nothing will fall off.
If you love her, it'll be worth the wait. What you have to consider is whether she is the right person for you. Do you share her faith? Is this going to cause problems down the line? Usually when couples decide to wait to have sex until marriage, both have a strong level of faith. If you don't agree on waiting, will you disagree on other things (like raising your children in the church, for instance) down the line? Again, if you love her, waiting will be the ultimate way to show it. You can do it. Just think about how great the wedding night will be.
Are you engaged? How long are we talking here? Were you having sex, and she all of a sudden decided that she wanted to wait? If it's only a matter of months or a year before your wedding, I'm sure you'll survive. If you aren't engaged, and she just wants to wait, you might want to consider whether she's the right person for you. Because if it's just an open-ended "I want to wait until marriage" sort of thing, that's a fundamental issue that needs to be addressed. If you don't intend to marry her, why stay together? Unless you share her faith, that could cause tension and perhaps lead you to cheat. And she doesn't deserve that.
If she's the person you want to spend your life with, the way to get through this (besides porn) is to remember that you love her and it will all be worth once you're married. You will be the better person for doing this for her. Think of it as character building. Also, I assume she'll still want to fool around. Use this time to rediscover the lost art of foreplay. Blowjays, handies, 69's, 24-7's (okay, I made that one up)...these are best friends right now. Pretend like you're back in high school, when you were lucky to even get to second base. Sex is great, but I'm sure you've gone through dry spells in the past and survived. You'll be okay. Nothing will fall off.
If you love her, it'll be worth the wait. What you have to consider is whether she is the right person for you. Do you share her faith? Is this going to cause problems down the line? Usually when couples decide to wait to have sex until marriage, both have a strong level of faith. If you don't agree on waiting, will you disagree on other things (like raising your children in the church, for instance) down the line? Again, if you love her, waiting will be the ultimate way to show it. You can do it. Just think about how great the wedding night will be.
If a guy (or gal) is really THAT obsessed with sex, then I suppose it's his/her right to seek out a relationship that fulfills that need. But unlike what certain others (cough) might say, you can have a "proper" relationship without sex. If a guy is willing to wait for a girl who wants to save herself for marriage, that says a LOT about the strength of his character. I take that as him knowing what's truly most important in a solid long-term relationship. Any person who claims they can't have a relationship unless their S.O. is putting out, is probably only looking out for his or herself.
This was a great answer, Nick.
Even with rediscovering the lost art of foreplay, you might still want to discuss these things with her. Especially if it's for religious reasons, she might still consider things like oral and fingering as sex.
If she's not a sexually charged person and he is, I foresee that making big problems for them in the future... :/
You "can't go 2 days without it?"
Three words: YES YOU CAN!
Even certified sexual compulsives can go longer than two days, and they have to go to meetings. Sounds to me like you're looking for an excuse to cheat and blame her for it.
It's called masturbation, dude. You'll survive.
Hmm, this is tricky.
After we got engaged (3 years into our relationship), my ex decided on no more sex before marriage (about 2 years into the future). Also no more sleeping in the same bed, no masturbation, no long makeout sessions.
Strangely enough, despite it not being what I wanted at all, I decided I would go through it. And then more rules kept popping up. Eventually, I realized that she was passive-aggressively ending the relationship.