Threesomes are absolutely not for the jealous. If you have trouble watching you girlfriend talk to another guy, you're going to have a lot more trouble watching another guy have sex with your girlfriend in front of you. So, in short, I don't recommend a threesome.
Now that we've gotten my opinion out of the way, let's dig into this a little more. Does your girlfriend have a specific person in mind? Is this person someone your girlfriend has dated? Is he (or she) a friend? Sometimes, "I want a threesome" is another way of saying "I'm attracted to someone else and want to have sex with them." I'm not saying that's the case here, but it's something to really think about.
Aside from this, are you and your girlfriend sexually compatible? Is she trying to get you to be more adventurous in the bedroom (besides the threesome request, that is)? If she's asking you to do things you're not comfortable with, there's a chance you two just can't make this work physically in the long term.
In any event, you've got plenty of thinking to do. Do write back and let us know how it goes.
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lol I do agree - it's rarely a good sign and usually a bad commentary about the man when it's the woman who asks for a threesome.
Ain't that the truth, Mr. X.
I think that goes both ways. It can be awfully hurtful to a girl when her guy asks for sanctioned cheating.
Turn the tables & ask for the 3rd party to be a female…., of your choosing.
WOW! That's exactly what I told my wife last night, when I showed her this, translated it for her, and she asked what would I do if she said she wanted a threesome.
She said fair enough.
Asking isn't the same as stating a need. My partner is the only one I have ever been exclusive with. He knows that if he decides he wants to try something new we can talk about it. He's a jealous guy, it is unlikely to ever happen. But talking about it can be fun too. And of course, knowing that there isn't anything we can't talk about is important to both of us. :-)
my gf aslo wants a 3 some with another guy. we been dating a couple of months and she wants me and her friend who is a virgen... hes a friend of mine too. hes too old to be a virgen and no one wants to do it with him... should i go throu with it?
I hate to be explicit but i dont think people go into enough detail in these topics. You have to remember, even though a good majority of people say it can sexually improve a relationship, could you honestly go through with allowing a guy ram your girlfriend from all sorts of positions, perform oral sex on him whilst you can vividly see her doing it and most likely enjoying it, whilst knowing that another guy is sexually pleasing your girlfriend the way you do. Now this is my opinion and i know this sounds crazy, but i could never have a threesome with my girlfriend and another girl or a guy, simply because i love her to pieces and i do not want to share her like a dog nor do i want to be shared.
I believe if you truly love and care for your partner that will involve a certain degree of jealousy, even if you think you're not a jealous person you will have some deep inside you. You also have to make the distinction between fantasizing about a threesome and going through with it, you cannot be annoyed with your partner for fantasizing as it is only human nature, it was driving me crazy for a while knowing that she could go through with it, but after we talked realistically about it we realised it would be too hurtful to see one another with other persons anyway.
To conclude my babble, Some couples can oddly have sexual relations with other people whom aren't involved within the relationship and not be affected by it at all, for me, personally it would ruin us and i would never be able to look at her the same again if it were carried out, and i think vise versa. I believe threesomes are best carried out between close friends whom have only sexual attraction to one another and no emotional feelings as this eliminates the jealousy and negative repercussions that can follow, allowing you to just enjoy the fun side of it. You must always remember aswell, if the idea of a threesome is constantly on your girlfriends mind and it is regularly brought up, you have to consider long term if you two will be physically compatible as the constant thought of her having intercourse with another man is in her head and she will long for it and most likely or eventually become sexually uninterested with you, which will result in a boring, unhealthy, sexless relationship.
I'm sorry for the essay. I hope my opinions and beliefs help you determine what choices you make.
I never indicated i wanted a threesome, it was offer by his boss i told his boss straight out its not a good idea due to our personal life n emotions for one an other- now because its was his boss i never wanted to be disrespectful towards the situation- if my old man is feel like i want to threesome his boss up and other guys up why would he not address the situation while it is happening- my old man always thinks I'm cheating or crawling over guys and shit i hate it its making me miserable. I don't know exactly how to adress this with him, but he takes shit off the Internet n shoves it in my face and then wants me to tell him how I feel on that. At first t was fine but enoughs enough, him watching three somes and dominance with sex-this is not intimacy for mii this is doing what you fantacyed about watching porn cause i fail to meet his needs. But I've asked him why he watches it he says to piss mii off cause he know i don't like it. And he is right i dont like it its degrating and I'm not into watching others having sex if i can't an dont turn u and u gotta watch porn to st back at mii or to get aroused thats bs. Why can't we stop fighting about this and how the hell dose this always turn into my fault. I do have guy friends and no we don't get sexually active with one another they friends and thats were they stand. Like am i doing something wrong cause he feels as if his needs are not met? I asked him and e wants more cuddling and effection, they thing is i always tried getting it from him n its always escalated into sex, just cause you got a hard on dont mean i have to touch it am i right? I feel as though sex has no meaning cause we did it the first time we hung out, I don't want him to leave vis Vera but i don't know how to get over and out of these arguments. And Is it normal to turn to the Internet every time you have a question. Like why can't he ask mii, am i not telling him what he wants to hear?