Myspace? Really? I thought the only people still on Myspace where teenage girls and pedophiles.Oops.
And your husband.
I am going to guess he's just a big fan of Justin Bieber.
Oh dear.
Usually, I think people place far too much emphasis on social media. Especially since if someone is running around online, it's going to spill over into real life. But I will change this opinion in this instance. Dude is being shifty.
I do not recommend a frontal attack, however. Once a woman starts to nag and hurl unfounded accusations, she cedes the high moral ground. Suspicious activity online is just that -- it's not damning evidence.
Can you friend him? Or ask to be his friend? Is that how it works on Myspace? I honestly don't remember. 2006 was a long time ago. Myspace? Jebus.
I mean, the most you can do is innocently ask him why you can't be his friend on Myspace. Make him a little defensive.
And then, honestly, the best you can do is keep your eyes peeled (what does that even mean anyway? Do eyes peel? Are they like onions? Wouldn't that hurt?) Be sensitive to the tingles of your spider sense. Don't go snooping. Wait for it to find you.
Be patient. If he's being a creep behind your back, it will catch up to him. Karma is a bitch. Which is to say, Karma is a woman you don't want to piss off.
This sounds sketchy.
How old is this guy? Because I, like JDV, thought MySpace was for the younger set and those who wanted to bang the younger set. Maybe he just wants some male bonding time with his friends. Trash-talking and testicle swinging. Or something. But if he won't let you take a peep now and then, he could be talking to a bunch of girls who, at the very least, are giving him an incredible ego boost. While this isn't wrong in and of itself, there are a lot of chicks out there who feel challenged by an unattainable man and set out to snag him, even if they don't want him. Keep your eyes and ears open.
Bull fucking shit, create a fake account with some random pic. See if he falls for the bait, then read what he's writing. If he's outright meeting up with other women behind your back, fucking crucify him.
HE'S YOUR HUSBAND. No he is NOT property, but if you have a relationship based on love and trust, then theres no reason in the world he should keep something like that from you. Unless, he's a giant douche nozzle, than yeah he has every reason.
Yeah, this is pretty much what I would do too ... make a hot 18-year-old LA model account on myspace and friend his shifty ass. See what's up.
There's really just not a single non-negative explanation for this one.
i think the basis of this question comes down to: why aren't you friends with your HUSBAND on myspace?
why does myspace exist/why are people still active on it is another (totally valid) question.
People with nothing to hide, hide nothing.
To quote Dr. Phil....
Girrrrrrrrrl, you know what to do....mahandle his balls like there's no tomorrow.
Thank you for all your advice. I have thought about sending him a friend request to see what's going on, but I honestly don't want to know what he is doing on there at this point. I do agree with JDV; if he is doing something wrong, it will eventually come out. I won't have to pry. Everyone trips up eventually. In the meantime, I don't want to start "seeing" things that aren't there because I was digging for dirt. Even though people do slip up eventually, it is far too easy to find things that aren't really there when you go snooping. I have to remind myself that people are innocent until proven guilty and assume the best in my husband rather than the worst. I did after all marry him because I though he was a great guy and I still do. I will however keep an open eye
Ok, so I agree completely that a woman should not just jump out of the woodwork and accuse their man of doing something wrong when he may be innocent. I am also all for karma, and believe in it strongly. I have, however, always wondered...what if it's too late for karma? What if this guy IS a scuzzbucket, and before you find out (you know, let IT come to YOU)....you end up getting STD's or something? And, the more time you invest in someone, the more heartbreaking it can feel. Ignorance isn't always bliss, unfortunately.