Absolutely yes, you should.
I think this is one of those situations where you should cut your losses now before it gets worse and somebody ends up resenting the other person completely. I assume that you took your husband back thinking that you were still in love with him but had been hurt and could get over it. But somewhere along the way, you realized you had gotten over the relationship and had no desire to remain in it.
You just couldn't or didn't want to tell him and then realized you were interested in his friend. This has Lifetime movie written all over it. And those are not movies that end well (at least not to me). You need to tell your husband the truth that you thought you wanted to be back together, but you were wrong and it's best if you both just move on. Shake hands get one last hump and part ways, maybe not as friends, but as people who respect one another.
Say you end up hooking up with the friend and the hubby finds out? It will be ugly and nasty - but it could have been avoided completely if you were honest. Breaking up a second time is hard to do, but its worth it if you can be happy in the end. And face it, nobody is happy in a relationship they do not want to be in.
So yes, you need to break it off with the husband and go hump other people. He won't be happy about it, but he'll be much more okay than he would if he found out if you cheated.
And by the way, humping his friend is a bad idea any way you cut it. Just because you're not together doesn't mean that you can hump his friends. Bobby Brown said it best, "ain't nobody humping around." While that makes no sense in this context, fact is, friends of the HUSBAND should be off-limits.
It was written.
NEVER, ever stay with someone you're over. You're hurting them, boring yourself, and wasting everyone's valuable time.
Good answer, panamanian jack.
This is one answer I can unequivocally agree with. DONT stay, DONT do the friend. That's just got "get your butt kicked by Dr. Phil" written all over it.
Stay with the husband. YOU ARE MARRIED. Married means commitment.
Just because you have some guy who thinks you are HOT. I am sure there are many who think you ate hot just to get into your panties Leave it that way. If you hook up with him and a relationship with him ends. You have lost a man who truly loves you and true love is so hard to find. You will be the LOSER in the end
I find this a really hard position to get behind. This person's husband was the one who initially ended that commitment, and if she's become unhappy in the relationship, it's kinder to all involved to move on. If her heart's not in it, it will just become an unhappy mess of resentment and regret, and who wants to live like that? Sometimes marriages don't work, and being trapped in a one-sided relationship sure won't help matters.
This guy should be glad he left you. Any woman who is willing to move in on a friend of her husband or even boyfriend is not a woman worth sharing yourself with and investing your emotions in.
If the friend has an ounce of honour, he would not go for you even if you initiated something. To go for a friend's wife or ex-wife is below any self-respecting, honourable man. For women like the poster, however, it is easily justifiable. It is all about them and no one else matters.
If the hubby broke the marriage first, then why is there such pity for him? The ones who said stay with him are absolutely dim-minded. Stay in a marriage where you'll be unhappy?! So it's fine to suffer as long as the MAN is happy? This is why women are still looked at as 50's housewives and are constantly treated like crap. A relationship is 100% matching feelings from BOTH parties. A marriage is a commitment of TWO people, not one. I say move on. If you and this other guy have a spark, then try.
I think the whole 'no dating friends exes' is dumb. It may be a bit of a hassle, but who cares about what the ex thinks?! They're an ex for a reason. To deny someone the chance to find someone to be happy with just shows how cave man like people continue to be. Because if you're over someone, then why does it matter who they date afterwards?! People who continue to cling or attempt to control an ex like that are shallow, controlling people who need mental help.