My take is that even God thinks your husband is full of shit.
"Only accountable to God," huh? Right. Does he say that to the cop who pulls him over for speeding? Or the boss who critiques his work performance? I doubt it, unless he's currently unemployed and incarcerated.
He's basically telling you not to criticize him. Why he's so defensive, I don't know. Maybe he thinks you nag him too much; maybe you do, maybe you don't, I wouldn't know. Forty-three years is a long time to be married. Maybe he's just tired of still having to listen to a wife after all these years. Again, I don't know your relationship, so I'm not sure why he feels like he feels. Maybe he's in the early stages of dementia.
What I do know is that Homey is dead wrong. Every one of us is accountable to others; it's part of being a spouse, a parent, a family member, friend, a co-worker, a human being. We can't just do whatever we want and not be held responsible by society, i.e. the people around us. A grown man saying he's only accountable to God reminds me of the time my eight-year-old daughter told to her mother, "You're not the boss of me!" Mom quickly proved her assertion false by dragging the kid by the ear to her room and banishing her there for the next hour. Do not F with Mom, yo.
So Hubby doesn't want you telling him what to do. T.F.B. Life sucks sometimes. He'll get over it. In the meantime, you might want to think about whether or not you're on his back too much, and, if you are, to cut him a little slack.
"Only accountable to God," huh? Right. Does he say that to the cop who pulls him over for speeding? Or the boss who critiques his work performance? I doubt it, unless he's currently unemployed and incarcerated.
He's basically telling you not to criticize him. Why he's so defensive, I don't know. Maybe he thinks you nag him too much; maybe you do, maybe you don't, I wouldn't know. Forty-three years is a long time to be married. Maybe he's just tired of still having to listen to a wife after all these years. Again, I don't know your relationship, so I'm not sure why he feels like he feels. Maybe he's in the early stages of dementia.
What I do know is that Homey is dead wrong. Every one of us is accountable to others; it's part of being a spouse, a parent, a family member, friend, a co-worker, a human being. We can't just do whatever we want and not be held responsible by society, i.e. the people around us. A grown man saying he's only accountable to God reminds me of the time my eight-year-old daughter told to her mother, "You're not the boss of me!" Mom quickly proved her assertion false by dragging the kid by the ear to her room and banishing her there for the next hour. Do not F with Mom, yo.
So Hubby doesn't want you telling him what to do. T.F.B. Life sucks sometimes. He'll get over it. In the meantime, you might want to think about whether or not you're on his back too much, and, if you are, to cut him a little slack.
Even if he's unemployed and/or incarcerated, he answers to someone. Unemployment office if he intends to get a check. Guards and warden if he's incarcerated. So, EVERYONE answers to someone.
UHHH he sounds like one of those religious crazies to me.. I hope he doesnt burn shit and make animal sacrifices!
But- she's been married to him for a while so he must seem sane to her. I agree with mcNeal- but if I was dating a guy and he made some strange utterance about only being accountable to "god" then I would consider it a red flag. I dont date crazy lawless individuals!
Please. Call me Cary. We're not in the army anymore.
Thanks for the comment.
Rach is probably in college or used to writing big papers. I got in the habit of using everyone's last name for awhile, hehehe. Still pops up now and then...
What about C-to-the-Mac?
That works.
"My take is that even God thinks your husband is full of shit." ~ LMAO! Cary I love you
Even if he says he only has to be accountable to God, wouldn't that by default mean that he would act the way God would expect him to act? I think God would expect him to try his best to be a good husband, father, son, brother, citizen, friend, and so forth. To me, that definitely means that if he is accountable to God, he is also accountable to others whether he thinks so or not. If he believes in the Bible, it is full of rules of how we are to act and how we are to treat one another.
Great extrapolation, Daisy. I didn't think anyone could make Cary sound like more of a genius (wink), but this was an excellent piggyback to his 'full of it' judgment call.
How far off the mark it is to think there are no expectations of anyone who believes in a higher power? No wonder religious people get such a bad rap. Geez!
Aw...thanks, Azure. In my opinion, Cary doesn't need any help being brilliant. He's got that covered on his own. In fact, he's all over it. It just seems to me that a natural extension of being accountable to God means that you are also accountable to the others in your life.
That's a very odd comment to make to somebody you just spent 43 years. Especially since you've been answering to her for 43 years. He's just having a rebellious day.
To me, this is a way to say "don't question my cheating, drinking, abuse, etc." As though we're expecting a Faustian deathbed recantation.
As for the name, I'm voting for "C-to-the-Mac".
43 years ? No - she has just now gotten to the stage to withstand his unaccountability... before, she probably had children to consider (they need a father and family situation - although, I've been there, I'm not sure that staying with one of these is better than being without - at least, tho, you can stay at home and try to teach them (children) right from wrong... (if he does work).