I wouldn't be upset about him not wanting you to go, but I would be upset about the fact that he's probably going to end up hooking up with either that girl from high school who rejected him back in the day or his first girlfriend or could be the first crush. Either way, shady activities will ensue.
Nostalgia + alcohol + pool party = Ooops I just cheated on my wife.
Make sure you go with him, he will need strict monitoring.
Well Mystery Man its probably a good thing your face is behind a mag because hes gonna wanna kill you when he figures out where shes getting this certain drunken itinerary!!
I actually agree, his whole excuse sounds a little shady. How much attention does he seriously think you need? You're a grown woman, not a puppy. Plus the fact that it's at a casino. Those are grown-up playgrounds, even if he does end up ignoring you, hit the blackjack table and win big.
OK maybe im wrong here but why does there have to be some hidden agenda for him to wanna go without his wife?!?
Whenever I wanna hang out without the hubbs I get excited!My thoughts are "I get to dust the cob webs off my potty mouth tonight,woohoo"!! When im out without him I respond to things differently,but dont get me wrong,I would die before I disrespect my vows & our trust but if only for a little while I dont have to consider anyone but MYSELF!!
When I'm out with my hubbs he's in high alert at all times because he knows that taking your lady out means Im counting on him to be my protector as he always is but with greater attentiveness.He has to say things like "honey what do you wanna drink?" or constantly asking "are you good?are you having fun?are you ready to go?" ITS HIS JOB TO MAKE SURE IM SEEN ABOUT WHEN WERE OUT JUST AS IF WERE HOME!
But when he hangs with his friends he doesnt have to do anything but relax & be a homeboy.He gets to say guy stuff without me giving him the "WTF?" face.
I dont think you should stress about him going alone unless he gave you a solid reason not to trust him.Otherwise let him be a big boy & trust that he'll handle himself accordingly.Not everybody has the Tiger Woods syndrome!!
i agree with angelbabygirl... i don't see anything shady in it per se. i have been to a high school reunion and i definitely went there alone, plus i hated it when other former classmates brought their partners (if they are not former classmates, too, that is). those nights are for people you haven't seen in many years, and a partner who doesn't know that many people (or none) requires a certain amount of attention... or he or she gets bored and wants to go home while you're having a ball.
i do give a point though: our reunion was in a rented room behind the school gym. if i went to such a fancy reunion like her husband's and my boyfriend really wanted to come with me, i'd take him. BUT i'd say let me go to the reunion, you can pop in there if you like... but when you get bored, go do something else. and tomorrow, we can hit up the casino together, or whatever you like.
i guess it is like it always is in life: it depends on what your boyfriend/husband is like. and think about it: pressuring him to take you there even if he wants to go alone can put a damper on your relationship, too (and on the reunion night, of course).
i agree with angelbabygirl... i don't see anything shady in it per se. i have been to a high school reunion and i definitely went there alone, plus i hated it when other former classmates brought their partners (if they are not former classmates, too, that is). those nights are for people you haven't seen in many years, and a partner who doesn't know that many people (or none) requires a certain amount of attention... or he or she gets bored and wants to go home while you're having a ball.
i do give a point though: our reunion was in a rented room behind the school gym. if i went to such a fancy reunion like her husband's and my boyfriend really wanted to come with me, i'd take him. BUT i'd say let me go to the reunion, you can pop in there if you like... but when you get bored, go do something else. and tomorrow, we can hit up the casino together, or whatever you like.
i guess it is like it always is in life: it depends on what your boyfriend/husband is like. and think about it: pressuring him to take you there even if he wants to go alone can put a damper on your relationship, too (and on the reunion night, of course).
WOW!!! This answer really surprised me. But thanks for the honesty, other guys go into "you should trust him" crap, but the truth is that it's really hard to focus in an enviorment like a class reunion mixed with all those other things you mention.
Thanks again!
My boyfriend recently asked me to go to his high school reunion. Then I ran into some married friends and they said, "DON'T GO!" He went to hers and was bored to death and she went to his and ended up sleeping in the car. Even my best friend said don't go. She said the wives and husbands ALWAYS end up sitting alone at the tables looking very bored. Why don't you do something for yourself? Like go to a spa or visit that relative you'll regret you didn't spend more time with? Or plan something with the girls? You're husband is going to be bonding again with people he pal'd around with in high school. Poker? Casino? Alcohol? Back slapping? You'll probably be very uncomfortable. If you want to do casino make him take you to one when he gets back. And pick a nicer one of course! Your husband is wise to know he won't be able to treat you like the queen you are. He probably wants to go and act like a goofball with the guys like he did in high school. Don't take it personally. He's doing you a favor. When my boyfriend gets together with the guys to play poker he turns into a completely different kind of guy. They get loud and focused on their game and I make myself scarce. And if you have trust issues book an appt with a counselor. Hold your head up and be the confident woman that you are!
mine just told me he doesnt want me going but im not crazy about it hes chatting with his friends on facebook saying : she was so hot , she was such a slut when i was with her ( in a good way ) im sorry we didnt hook up it could of been good .. thats why im stressing when he told me he doesnt want me going ...
hahahahahahahahha, PLEASE tell me how " she was such a slut when I was with her" could ever be "in a good way". That was really funny to read.
anyway, while I think you might end up bored, I would not trust him, not after what he has said on facebook, plus the fact that its going to be at a hotel, with half naked people, drinking a little too much..... that's a recipe for disaster! I would go and suffer through being bored! I would let him be himself, but I would be there to step in and say "hey, she's cute, but she wont do the things to you that I will when we get back *wink, a come hither look, and a blood pumping grasping of his "goods" then sashay off back to the "partners table" to continue being bored* Just a gentle reminder of what he has to loose by straying will make him not regret having you there to spoil his fun. Then when the night is over, make it a night to remember!
This weekend is my husbands class reunion he as already spoken with one of his girl classmates and asked specifically about one girl he said was the nicest sweetest girl he has ever met and is she still single? The "sweet" girl is a owner of a bar that is hosting the event. I am 7 years older than my husband and do not know any of his class mates but would love to hear funny stories about him. But am very concerned about the one hosting the event. He has told me I would be too bored to be there. I just have a gut feeling HELP!!! The other day I found a receipt for steak dinner and all the fixings when he told me he was going to meet a "buddy" that eve for dinner. He paid cash not debit card like we always do when we go to the store. I asked him about the receipt he said he was going to surprise me with this and cook it for us. I asked him where the food was he said he got busy on his phone and forgot it at the grocery store... after giving the clerk a $100. bill to pay for this dinner??? sound funny to anyone or am I being paranoid??
husband went without me, old girllfriend went without her husband...alcohol...two marriages took a beating...still emailing...damn Al Gore for inventing this internet thing! and cell phones...cheating is just too easy these days
my husband of 20 years wants US to attend his 30th, I'm 7 years younger, won't really know anyone and think it's a bad idea. Sounds like a lot of them are divorced and still sleeping with whomever whether their married or not. He's cheated before and I do not trust him. If we don't go we could save ourselves from possible temptation. if we do go, I'll need eyes in the back of my head. I want him to be happy but I know that someone there will try to get or give a number for a later date hook up. Just not so sure I wanna deal with desperate house wives and horney husbands... I'd like to stay married.
If your worried about your man with alcohol, ex girlfriends/flings, poll parties, desperate housewives, and whatever else. Maybe you shouldnt be with him in the first place.
If marriage has become spending the rest of your life with someone your worried about running into his past, then you probably should have never focused on your furture together as a married couple.
People may have fears to begin with and thats perfectly normal.
But to sit there and do the math about "every factor" that could lead to husband to cheat... try doing the math to every reason why the person loves you..or why they even married you in the first place.
Also a lot of your fears seem to be a self conscious in the past few comments.. if so maybe you need to do a little re-evaluating on yourself, and not just your man.
"dont waste time focusing on the "what if", you'll miss out on "what is.""
JUS SAYIN
I am dealing with a husband who decided facebook was great and awesome and his old gal pals all jumped right at him with phone numbers, and I said right from the start I did not mind just no personal messages, immediately the personal messages and lies began, and many many fights. I am still dealing with the b.s., it really took a wonderful marriage and brought it down to the high school young adult relationship. Most recently the one gal pal I know that flirted on facebook to the point of we should meet and have lunch or coffee has broken one married couple up and I hear she is nice, she is my friend, and now he has even been to her house plowed her driveway, he just happened to drive by, yes the road he hadn't gone down in 20 years by his mothers house he now happened to go by!! I am at a point where I cannot take it anymore it has driven me crazy to the point I wish I would leave but can't seem to make the break...We loved so much before. he still goes on Face fuck and still lies about it but swears he loves me and wouldn't do anything that would be cheating. It sux get out now.