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My Nana died in late Oct. and I suffered an emotional breakdown. I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months. A week and 1/2 later, I snapped out of it, but it was too late. He'd 'found what he was looking for.' I don't get it. Did he really move on that fast, or did I hurt his pride? I'm devastated, I still love him.

First off, I'm very sorry to hear about your grandmother's passing. But you can't beat yourself up over this. If nothing else, his actions are proof that he's not the right guy for you.

He met someone after a week-and-a-half? I hate to say it, but he was looking for an out. Obviously you were going through a difficult time. If he really cared for you, he would have stayed around as a friend to make sure you were okay. He wouldn't have suddenly "found what he's looking for" (whatever that means) in a matter of days. Even if he is just saying that out of pride, it seems like he is ready to move on.

Also, you did break up with him. He's entitled to move on to avoid getting hurt again. But this sounds more like he was ready to break up as well. A guy who is fully moved on after a week is not someone you want in your life long-term. If it's still bothers you, ask him why he was ready to move on so fast. Tell him that you are hurt that he wasn't there for you during your breakdown, even as a friend. But "I found what I've been looking for" sounds like he's met someone else, or at least is happy to be single.

Congrats on coming out of the breakdown. Focus on taking care of yourself now. Surround yourself with positive people, and not those will move on from you in a week and a half.
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I had an ex that did the same when I broke up with him but then realized my mistake and tried (ok, maybe not too hard) to come back. And in fact, it happened he did it out of pride, pretending to be on chase when we talked and then when I did moved on and found someone else, he was the one pissed off..

Pride makes you do weird things. He probably just want you to be hurt as much as he was (and probably still is), but he doesn't realize that's the best way to lose you for good. His selfish and childish behaviour (you hurt me, so I hurt you), is not acceptable, especially because of what you're going through with the death of your grandmother (and I'm very sorry about this..).

Have a real talk with him. At least you'll get answers. But don't expect you'll get back together, cause he'd probably let his pride talk first. Childish boys belong to playgrounds. Life may not be easy right now and you need someone supportive, not a baby boy that can't understand you might do the wrong choices because of pain.

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