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My question never gets answered but i really need this one. I recently broke up with my ex-bf for cheating on me but he continues to text/call me even though he is with a new girl. When i post a status on FB about guys I like, he texts me and cusses me out. Why is he doing this?

Ya know, that's a good question.

Are you sure he got the memo that you were breaking up with him? You didn't send the news in an e-mail or leave a phone message, did you? If so, maybe he didn't get it; e-mails get lost, phone messages get erased. I know he has a new girlfriend, but he wouldn't be the first guy with a new girlfriend who thinks he still has dibs on the old one.

Other than that, I have no idea why he thinks he can still tell you what to do. Maybe he's insane, or just delusional.

The problem is easily solved, however: first, dump him from your FB account so he can't see your messages. He's not your boyfriend and he's not your friend, so cut him from your list. Then, if he calls or texts you, remind him that you are no longer his girlfriend and therefore not interested in his thoughts on your love life or FB posts or anything else.

In other words, tell him to piss off. It's over. What you do is none of his business anymore. You cut the cord, but there's this one little thread still connecting you and him. Snip it.

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silkysly

..., & after you tell him, do NOT respond to another text/email/call/whatever.

Cary McNeal

YES! Good point. Ignore him if he keeps contacting you.

silkysly

;-p

silkysly

;-p

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He cheated on you and now he's hoping to cheat on his new g/f with you. I don't like to stereotype but I guess the adage, "once a cheater always a cheater" does apply to SOME. Good Luck!

Suzanne55

Wise Guy,,,I tried the "ask a question", but my question never goes through, so I'm trying it this way? My fiance of 7 years decided he fell out of love with me and met a new girl, married her, it only lasted 3 months and then he emailed me wanting to get together and try to fall "in love" again?
It took me two years to heal from losing him. He is the love of my life! Now he is playing cat and mouse with me.
Help???????????????????????????????? Stupid as it sounds, I love him and don't have a clue how to handle this? If he said, I love you and want us to live happily ever after, it would be different, but he says he loves me and would like to try and "fall in love" with me again.
I feel as though he just returned and poured salt into wound. All of the feelings of devastation came flooding back,,,especially when I can hear in his tone that he is confused and really trying to figure it all out?
PS, yes is is a bit of a player, but he's 58 for goodness sakes, lol.

Bibonoshoes

I think he's afraid to end up alone..He knows you love(d) him, and try to get back to you so there'd still be someone for him somewhere.
he tells you he loves you but wants to "try to fall in love again with you"?????
that's cheap talking.

Sorry girl, but DO turn the page.

silkysly

She is absolutely right I’m afraid. Take the love you have for him out of it. Do you REALLY want to be with someone who made you second best? I’m sure if you don’t cave, he will quickly find someone else.

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OR .... you could post on his wall "You have a girlfriend please stop texting me and calling me!" That outta wake him up! or at the very least get his new girlfriend on his ass about leaving you alone

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