Errrr. Here's my advice. Go out, feel sexy, and have some fun trainer sex. Why not? A "womanizer" is only a jerk if the woman doesn't know it. You know it. You want it. You can't possibly be disappointed if he turns out to be a player, because he's a player. What's the worst case scenario? The sex is lame? That sucks, but hey, isn't that lady ritual known as "brunch" fueled by mimosas and tales of terrible booty? I mean, maybe the worst case scenario is that the fling turns into a relationship? Wouldn't that be... awful?
I know many women are concerned by what their friends think of them. The word "slut" is nothing more than an insidious form of psychological warfare invented centuries ago by men who wanted to insure a surplus of virgins. By inventing a label that shames, they were ensuring that women who wanted to express their sexual desires like human beings would change their behavior. They would resist their desires in order to prevent being called a slut. This is bullshit.
Slut it up. I'm a slut. We're all sluts. You sound like someone who's been in plenty of relationships. You understand the value of the heart. Now go out and get your cookie. It's your God given right to find someone who will make your thighs shake.
To the woman who answered this question, Girl we are in the same situation. And go ahead and do you. I got over my fear of "slut" labeling and have started hooking up with a friend, and its been great. So go ahead and get your cookie and your milk and your cake....girl just raid the desert bar.
PS....Always be safe when getting your cookie
"It's your God given right to find someone who will make your thighs shake."
I love you, John DeVore.
I really, really do.
"A "womanizer" is only a jerk if the woman doesn't know it."
So true. So, so, so true. Please write a book about dating for men based around this - it amazes me how so many guys seem to overlook this one small fact!
Oh wow, it's like I asked this question. I too just got out a snooze-worthy relationship a month ago and after the breakup signed up for a gym membership, meeting a yes, super hot trainer.
One thing led to another and now I'm going out with him this weekend :)
I thought he was a little out of my league but if he doesn't think I'm not going to tell him differently, haha.
He might be out of your league in the gym - but you have an advantage in the bedroom. Use it.
I bet his penis is tiny! I wish you could tell how big a dude's penis was by looking at his face. That way, you could make the decision to bed him or not after giving it a quick once-over.
If you want to get laid, you want to get laid. It's not fair. Guys can easily assess women's junk, but we can't do the same.