Listen to the T-Pain song "I'm in Love with a Stripper." The soulful, Auto-Tuned lyrics will tell you all you need to know.
If you've slipped a dollar into her g-string at any point, you're probably not going to date her. That said, if you ever date a woman who also happens to be a stripper, treat her with respect. She's a person with needs, wants, and feelings just like everyone else. Buy her flowers, take her to a nice restaurant. She's getting pawed by slimy divorced dads and frat boys all night -- the least you could do is rub her shoulders, cook her a nice dinner, and help her to feel like a human being again at the end of the evening.
Don't give her grief for her job. It's her choice, and no one should judge her. If the club is dangerous (drugs, abusive customers, etc.), encourage her to find employment elsewhere. Be supportive. There is any number of reasons why she has this job (the quick cash probably being a huge factor), which hopefully won't be a permanent gig.
Finally, dating a stripper just to date a stripper is the goal of the scumbag. Don't be a scumbag. If you fall for a nice, smart woman who also happens to be a stripper, that's a different story. Date the person, not the fake persona. Hate to burst your bubble, but you're not going home with "Lexie," you're going home with, uh, whatever Lexie's real name is.
If you've slipped a dollar into her g-string at any point, you're probably not going to date her. That said, if you ever date a woman who also happens to be a stripper, treat her with respect. She's a person with needs, wants, and feelings just like everyone else. Buy her flowers, take her to a nice restaurant. She's getting pawed by slimy divorced dads and frat boys all night -- the least you could do is rub her shoulders, cook her a nice dinner, and help her to feel like a human being again at the end of the evening.
Don't give her grief for her job. It's her choice, and no one should judge her. If the club is dangerous (drugs, abusive customers, etc.), encourage her to find employment elsewhere. Be supportive. There is any number of reasons why she has this job (the quick cash probably being a huge factor), which hopefully won't be a permanent gig.
Finally, dating a stripper just to date a stripper is the goal of the scumbag. Don't be a scumbag. If you fall for a nice, smart woman who also happens to be a stripper, that's a different story. Date the person, not the fake persona. Hate to burst your bubble, but you're not going home with "Lexie," you're going home with, uh, whatever Lexie's real name is.
As an ex stripper......
what nick said! Also, dont go to the club if you love her, you dont want to see her working so closely with her customers, and she doesnt need to be losing her well paying job over you starting a fight in a place you shouldnt have been in the 1st place.
Dont treat her like trash for working in a trashy place, the chance of it being her 1st choice of job possibilities is very slim, tell her you know she is working hard to get herself further in life. She needs to know that she has people standing behind her that know her full potential and that she can reach it.
Be prepared for it to affect your sex life, she is either going to be extremely horny or not want to be touched at all at the end of the night.
Candlelight lovemaking is always good....just saying.
You know its hard out there for a pimp!
When I was pregnant with my daughter, I told my dad the name we decided on for her....it was Lexie(not Alexis and Lexie for short)...just Lexie. Well my dad got all upset and told me that sounded like a stripper's name and continued to tell me that until she was about a year old. It actually used to hurt my feelings a little, but now I'm cracking up after reading your answer! So thanks!
Just 'cuz she dances go-go
It don't make her a ho, no
Maxine, put your dance shoes on
We going to the disco
We gonna eeelope to Meeeexico
Called up my mama, said I'm in love with a stripper, yo.
-- Wyclef Jean
Nick has got it all wrong. Most strippers will date their 'clientele' at some point. If you're a guy who hasn't asked for and received a stripper's number while at the club, you're not talking to the right one. There are trashy strippers and there are trashier strippers. Look for the ones that have the aura about them that says "I've had kids with three different guys and I live in my mom's basement". They will give you a number. But be sure and call after 3 am. The party's just getting started at that point.