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I'm white and my boyfriend is white also but he told me that he prefers to date Asian women. Am I wasting on time on someone who will never be truly happy with me because I'm not his preference? Would he feel like he is missing out on other things because I'm white and not Asian?

You are absolutely wasting your time. Why be with someone who openly tells you that he prefers to date other types of women? Did you know this going in, or does he casually bring up his Asian fetish ever time you guys go out for sushi?

Clearly he doesn't just date Asian women, seeing as how he's with you. But the fact that he's talking about other women is a sign he doesn't consider you a long-term prospect. Who cares if he's missing out on something else. YOU'RE missing out. You are with a guy who openly tells you that he prefers women who are not you. That's not a guy to feel sorry for-- that's a straight up douchebag.

Dump him. Let him go entertain his kind of racist Asian fetish. Anyone who says they prefer to date one race is boring and lame.
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They all prefer to be with Asian women for some reason.

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$25 dollah make ya holla!! lmaooooooo

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ye...no. wrong.

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The most annoying thing is, it works to no one's advantage. I'm Asian and I am always very wary of men who only want to date Asian women, or would prefer to be with them, etc. It annoys me because you never know what fucked up cultural stereotypes they bring with them (that we're stupid, for one, or docile. I certainly am not) or why they want to be with you (physical probably. Some sort of post WWII hangover?).

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Hmm...what if your boyfriend likes to make references to "sassy black women?" He didn't say that he prefers to date them, but he works with a lot of them and finds them "practical." I am most definitely not a sassy black woman, so it did make me wonder the last time he said it.

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Dump him fast ... Why is he dating you in the first place ... find a man that will appreciate you and not fantasize about other races of women (bizzare) .. GET RID OF HIM

Seagoatsarah

He sounds like a racist dick. I bet he's never even dated an Asian woman, and is totally relying on false stereotypes.

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He sounds like a racist dick. I bet he's never even dated an Asian woman, and is just dreaming about false stereotypes.

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Leave him...I can't believe he would say something like that. I'm asian and if my boyfriend were to tell me that he prefers white/hispanic or any other type of woman i would feel like absolute shit. I cannot begin to comprehend how u must feel... I'm so sorry I hope that this man never hurt anybody again... leave him...

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I don't think things are so black and white.
Perhaps he didn't say it in so much of a 'I would rather be dating an asian right now'.
Sometimes people have preferences for physical attributes(wouldn't most women ideally like to be dating Johnny depp , brad pitt, jake gyllanhal etc?) yet we meet someone who doesn't fit into this ideal yet we love them and want to be with them anyway.
In some ways, I think the fact that he is with you and is attracted to you despite the fact he normallylikes asains, can be something special.
If however it has something to do with stereotypes or how he perceives asians to be characterwise (docile, more submissive, more attentive etc) then it might be something you want to rethink...

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