Let me try to wrap my face around your query. Where can you find a guy who:
A. Isn't on the dating scene
B. Can't stand the thought of sex
C. Can't stand the thought of KISSING?
Dag. That's like asking, "Where can I go swimming without getting wet?" or "In what town can I eat a pound of pork fried rice and still be considered a vegetarian?" I hate to sound like a Mean-jean©, but your question reads like a riddle. And I hate to speak in absolutes, but your premise leaves very few good options. Not because of the sex thing, though if you are, you know, over 22 or so, it will be an issue; but mainly because of the kissing thing. That's sort of like a pre-req for dating.
Kissing is the baseline physical currency of dating; it's the relationship "high five." You're suggesting dating someone without the exchange of any physical coinage. That's going to be tough, but I did some research on WebMD and the Mayo Clinic. I cross referenced my findings with a Magic 8 Ball and Myspace and discovered there's a clinical term for what you're seeking: a friend. A really close friend.
They say friends are the family you choose as an adult. Fine, I'll buy that. But friends are also companions you don't bone. Please save yourself time and pride. Don't go on a dating site looking for a friend. It's like going to MTV looking for music. And people on the site will likely go nuts once they find out your nefarious plans.
Here's the solution: check out Facebook. Check out those community boards on Yahoo. Maybe you'll click with someone with similar interests and needs as you. Join a hiking club or volunteer at a soup kitchen; spread the word at work, or with trusted family that you're looking for your soul mate: A friend without benefits.
"like going to MTV looking for music" That made me laugh. :-D
You should be married to my husband. That's his idea of a dream girl.
You nailed it, Funny Guy. Friend WITHOUT benefits. Hilarious.
"I cross referenced my findings with a Magic 8 Ball and Myspace and discovered there's a clinical term for what you're seeking: a friend" I. Died. I guess you're a fair replacement for the old funny guy.
i'm sure there are a-sexual communities, cause there are alot of people out there with non romantic life partners, some of them very much in love, but for whatever reason they have no sex drive at all. if this is a long term sort of need i.e. you will probably never desire sex, you can find people of like mind. there might be support groups or something where you can meet people. i wouldn't go this route if you think this is temporary, like you've been burned and just need to get away from the sex thing for a while, cause you might meet a wonderful person and a day will come when you need sex and they never will
spot on!! loved it
You could always marry a gay guy...
I suggest having a gay husband! I have one and it's wonderful...we have no desire to have any kind of physical contact, but we have that male/female companionship. We help each other through all of our things and I can always get a male's perspective on their own species!!
You could go lookup my ex-husband too. He never wanted to have sex! It became a once-per-year-maybe event. For some people, sex isn't important. I felt like I was tricked, because we did have sex before marriage, but after a year into marriage he stated that sex just wasn't that important to him and if we never did it, he'd be fine with that. Believe it or not, I stayed married to him for 12 years before I finally said to myself, "you know what...this isn't enough for me...".
...try a church? I believe it is possible to date without kissing, but it's more like old fashioned courtship. Yes, there are people who feel the same way. You just have to look.