Dump him. That'll get his attention. Seriously, stop being his doormat. He knows he can treat you like garbage and you'll be there with clean laundry and dinner on the table. Stop this cycle immediately before you end up married to him and find out he's been cheating on you with UPS lady. (What? The outfits are kind of hot.)
Whether you're beautiful or not is beside the point-- there are guys out there who won't walk all over you. But if you have zero backbone and stay in a terrible relationship, your confidence will be destroyed and you'll have trouble finding someone new and better for you. You'll meet guys and all you'll talk about is your awful boyfriend who ruined your life forever.
Right now everyone around you knows you should break up with this colossal waste of air and space. Why are you waiting? If you think he's worth it, sit him down and say he has to change immediately. Tell him if he doesn't start respecting you, he knows where the door is.
Honestly, though, it doesn't sound like he deserves a second change. He has made it clear that he has zero respect for you by flirting with other girls, abandoning you, and generally making you feel an inch tall. The sooner you respect yourself and get out of this bad situation, the sooner you'll meet someone who treats you like a human being and not a maid who he occasionally sleeps with.
Whether you're beautiful or not is beside the point-- there are guys out there who won't walk all over you. But if you have zero backbone and stay in a terrible relationship, your confidence will be destroyed and you'll have trouble finding someone new and better for you. You'll meet guys and all you'll talk about is your awful boyfriend who ruined your life forever.
Right now everyone around you knows you should break up with this colossal waste of air and space. Why are you waiting? If you think he's worth it, sit him down and say he has to change immediately. Tell him if he doesn't start respecting you, he knows where the door is.
Honestly, though, it doesn't sound like he deserves a second change. He has made it clear that he has zero respect for you by flirting with other girls, abandoning you, and generally making you feel an inch tall. The sooner you respect yourself and get out of this bad situation, the sooner you'll meet someone who treats you like a human being and not a maid who he occasionally sleeps with.
What he said. I was dating a guy like this, so many red flags that I knew it'd never be more than just dating for fun, etc. Get out now, don't let him hurt you anymore. This guy still hurt me a lot, said mean things, treated me like crap - it hurt because I know I'm so worth more! And so are you, go find an awesome guy. I did :) And it is AWESOME! the little things he does just because. You should experience this, too.
Good luck! It won't be easy, sorry to say :(
I think you would be a lot better off if you found someone else who could treat you with the respect that you deserve, instead of trying to salvage this. Why you want to be with this guy who treats you so badly? If you do love him, he isn't acting like he loves you at all. If he says he does, don't believe him. Judge a person on their actions, not their words. A man who cares about you wouldn't lie to you all the time, ditch you for his friends, and completely disrespect you by flirting with other girls.
The only thing you have done wrong is that you haven't dumped this loser yet. Leave him and find someone who respects you. It's better to be single and able to look for love elsewhere than to stay stuck in a lousy relationship.
Ditto!
I was in a situation identical to this and it took me me over a year to make the decision to get out. It was genuinly the most difficult thing I have ever done but it was the right thing to do for me. Deep down, you know what is best for you; it may take you longer (like it did me) to finally put your foot down and leave but the fact that you are even asking this question means you are capable of it. I am so happy I left, and now that I am with someone great, I finally realize, the little "sweet" things my ex used to do once in a blue moon that would get me to say: "See, he cares, he did this that one time..." didnt mean a thing. Those little sweet things we all do for those we love for no reason? Those are supposed to be an everyday thing, hold out for it, you deserve it.
I was in a situation identical to this and it took me me over a year to make the decision to get out. It was genuinly the most difficult thing I have ever done but it was the right thing to do for me. Deep down, you know what is best for you; it may take you longer (like it did me) to finally put your foot down and leave but the fact that you are even asking this question means you are capable of it. I am so happy I left, and now that I am with someone great, I finally realize, the little "sweet" things my ex used to do once in a blue moon that would get me to say: "See? he cares, he did this that one time..." didnt mean a thing. Those little sweet things we all do for those we love for no reason? Those are supposed to be an everyday thing, hold out for it, you deserve it.
I totally agree with the response. This guy is a jerk who knows he can take advantage of you and there will be no negative consequences. But know that if you threaten to dump him unless he changes, you must be prepared to actually go through with it. Empty threats will not help the situation.
How about A. put ur foot down and tell him his behavior is not cool. He'll either respond positively or negatively. If he responds bad we move to plans B or C. B. Dump him, or C. stay with him and sooner or later prince charming will poke you on Facebook lol