You can't "get" anyone to forgive you. They have to make that choice on their own. All you can do is take responsibility for what you did and apologize, which you have done. The rest is up to him.
You don't mention how long your guy's been giving you the silent treatment, so it could be one of two things: either he's cooling off because he's still very angry, or he's punishing you for your mistake. Some people like to pout and to rub our noses in it even after we apologize.
His silence is making you feel like a bum, but don't buy into it. You aren't a bad person. We all make mistakes. Some of us make enough for three or four people. You apologized, and he needs to get over it. In the meantime, be sure to let yourself off the hook, too. It's water under the bridge and you should both move on, but as long as he's sulking and you're responding to his sulking, you're both stuck in a stagnant pool of fish turds and industrial waste.
I say just leave the guy alone and let him get over it. Each time you reach out to him for absolution is just another chance for him to throw it back in your face. You've done everything you can do, so just back off and give him some space until he can get his panties unbunched. He'll stop sulking if you stop acknowledging it.
LOL! Love the tag "get over it mr. poopypants." :)
I think an important thing is that you didn't trust him. Why? Either you're paranoid or he's done something to earn your lack of trust. Trust is an important part of a relationship. If he's not trustworthy dump him. If he is trustworthy and there was no basis for you to doubt him, there's an issue for you to work on within yourself. Meaning it may be more about you than him.
In most cases though, I say trust your instincts about people's character. Good luck.
It's def. my problem... he didn't do anything wrong. I know that for a fact. I am working on it and we've talked.
I didn't contact him for a couple of days and gave him some time to figure things out and we're talking normally again!
hmm...am I the only one who thinks that something serious might have happened when she freaked out? Either that or the guy needs to man up and realise that his girlie is human. We're not perfect.
Oh my god, thank you, his is so well written and the humour helps. I've been getting the silent treatment on an off for about five weeks now, fully for one week. I have been in a desparate state of emotion, falling to the ground crying, pxting a photo of me at my worst crying and no response. Not one ounce of empathy. I gave one more ditch effort last night to ask why he's doing this as Christmas is approaching. I'm a wreck. I got: "You criticise when I text you, you criticise when I don't". Criticise seems such a harsh and carefully chosen word??? I know I've nagged, but he keeps doing the same lack of communication. I have apologised til I gag and it's not my fault. I can own I've been needy and I am working on that, but I can't prove it and work on it if he won't give me a chance. I pointed out very clearly how communication is so important to get through this and he still continues to do it. I asked him to treat me better and communciate clearly. He agreed to work on it, now this. This article has woken me up. I'm getting on with life now as hard as it is. This is my soulmate for so many years - he was my first love - and he does this to me. I must stand strong and leave him to it now - thank you so much. It's what I already knew to do back, but wasn't doing. I'm a communicator and problem solver. I don't hold grudges. In arguments I get over it within 10 minutes. My mother has been like this to me all my life, it builds irrepairable resentment, not love. I have heard some people seek a partner like the parent they feel never loved them. It's like approval seeking. I will keep loving and loving and loving you until you love me back. This opens you up to emotional abuse. I'm living proof.
A man who gives you the silent treatment after you have appologized is selfish. He does not want to make you happy, he just wants you to make him happy. As long as everything was how he wanted it, when he wanted it, with his friends, he was happy. I am worth more than that!