Maybe he's not into public displays of affection. And you can't get more public than Twitter and Facebook. Also, maybe he just wants to post comments on his friend's photos and play Mafia Wars in peace. Why do you need to broadcast your love to the world? An occasional Tweet or Facebook comment is one thing. But after a while, it just starts to look like you're showing off.
It could be that your constant lovey-dovey posts make him self-conscious. Remember: everyone from his coworkers to the guy he played Little League with growing up could be among his Facebook friends. Perhaps he prefers to show his affection in the real world, and not through a "Super Poke." Sure, the occasional message back and forth is sweet. Something casual and not too "TMI" (or "TMFI"). But if he's not into it, don't make feel uncomfortable.
Does he show his affection in other ways? If he's not reciprocating your feelings, that's a whole other issue. But if you're just annoyed at his lack of Facebook flirting, you should probably ease up on him. At the very least, ask him if he's okay with your Facebook declarations of love. If you love him so much, it's the least you can do.
Why is Facebook the new barometer for relationships?
He's a guy. That means he has guy friends. And guys rip on their friends who send cutesy messages across Facebook/Twitter for all the world to see. I know -- I've seen it happen. Maybe he's totally comfortable being cuddly and calling you Snuggle Bunny when it's just the two of you, but give him a break! At least let him have the facade of being a manly man to his online friends!
Agreed, Anne. Save the cuddly wuddly bear stuff for home, or even on the street. Putting it on Facebook, where it will forever stay for all the world to see, is probably making him uncomfortable.
Those types of declarations made online strike me as much more about you than about him. Grow up!
I'm not usually this harsh, but you struck a nerve here. I cannot stand seeing schmaltzy love notes on Facebook. It's so high school to me, and it's also very self-congratulatory and braggy. He's probably ignoring them in the hopes that you'll get the message and stop trying to prove something to everyone you two know about how great your relationship is.
100% agree. I'm Facebook friends with a girl I went to high school with but never spoke to, and thanks to constant newsfeed updates I know what her and her boyfriends' song is and think of her every time I hear it. Messed up, right? And that said, can there be a petition initiated against black-and-white Picknicked kissing pictures? If you love making out so much, go do it some more and leave us hundreds of vague acquaintances out of it.
Oh gosh. I have a couple of friends who are *constantly* posting that lovey-dovey nonsense on their facebooks. One, I kid you not, ONLY posts status updates to say that she "loves her darling baby boy" (which, frankly, is like the least romantic thing you can call your boyfriend, isn't it?). When I see this, all I can think is "she has no confidence in her relationship. They're going to break up any day now." For me, the more publicly you insist on making these kinds of statements, the more you're just trying to convince yourself and others that it's true.
So maybe it's a good thing the original questioner's boyfriend doesn't post "I love yous" to the interwebz? In a similar vein, maybe you should examine your own need to do so?
I have to agree with the comments above.
I know that rules of intimacy on the net are not as clear as face to face, and people are forgetting about netiquette nowadays, (and maybe reaching 30 means becoming an old fart when it comes to social networks. In which case, excuse an old lady's rant :D), but to me, writting your love for your boyfriend on your facebook status is like yelling it at a party so all present friends and aquaintances can hear (or maybe wearing a "I love my blondie bear!!!" T-shirt while said bear is walking around town with you).
And as a woman, I do not broadcast my mate(s) to anyone, especially to another woman. And as a freak, I would have done my female friend's man in hot sec and smiled in her face later as if nothing happened! You get it? In other words, you tell me about ur man...I may also want a piece of him too. :O
At least your guy keeps your messages and doesn't delete them. I guess he is just really not into PDA.