I have wanted to see that movie for the longest.

Those are all really desirable boyfriend behaviors, but don't guys ever play hard to get? I know that it really ratchets up my attraction level when a guy who's being sweet to me suddenly starts acting like he has better things to do. It's not just men that like the chase, so I was always assuming that these actions were calculated as part of our pre-dating flirtation and not an actual lack of interest on his part.

Are guys' actions always representative of their feelings or do they sometimes play these games, too?

11. They act like they are into you.

See and those totally make sense, but I had a guy do that, all of that. We dated for months and everything was great, until one day he ended things and I didn't even see it coming. He said he still cared about me and wanted me but that because we could only see each other once a week it wasn't fair to me. He claimed that if he could quit work(works retail while in school and has a horrible schedule) and spend more time with me he would. Said that if I ever need somebody for something, like a wedding date, he would be there. Joked about how next summer if I get to running that 5k like I want to he will be running there with me, kicking my butt! When I was upset and crying about a huge fight with a friend, he was instantly texting me and asking if I was ok! What is up with this crap?

See that all makes sense, but I had a guy do all that and more. My bf of several months did all of those things. Then one day he just ended things. Said it wasn't fair to me. We could only see each other about once a wee due to distance, both of us living with parents and him working a crappy retail job. He told me that he would quit work if he could and spend time with me. He said that he still cares about me and wants me but that I can find better. He said he would still be there for me if I ever needed a date for an event. He joked that next summer if I get to running the 5k I want to then he would be there kicking my butt. When I was upset about a fight with a friend, he was instantly there asking me what was wrong! So what is up with this crap? He does everything the movie/book says and you say, but dumps me? :(

See that all makes sense, but I had a guy do all that and more. My bf of several months did all of those things. Then one day he just ended things. Said it wasn't fair to me. We could only see each other about once a wee due to distance, both of us living with parents and him working a crappy retail job. He told me that he would quit work if he could and spend time with me. He said that he still cares about me and wants me but that I can find better. He said he would still be there for me if I ever needed a date for an event. He joked that next summer if I get to running the 5k I want to then he would be there kicking my butt. When I was upset about a fight with a friend, he was instantly there asking me what was wrong! So what is up with this crap? He does everything the movie/book says and you say, but dumps me? :(

so how do you know if a guy is flirting in his texts and emails? I read the "smiley face" post already;)

12. They display their bright rump and hoot at other males who come near.

Or wait, that might be orangutans.

I just watched that movie sans my boyfriend last night. He also reads this site from time to time -- hope he doesn't think I asked this question. xoxo.

I think the key to girls determining if guys are 'into' them is not analyzing every move they make as an individual move. Analyze their overall behavior, demeanor, and interaction with you. Every guy is different, and thus handles situations differently. This kind of thing, I think, requires a case by case basis type analysis.

I love that movie so much and learned something out of it. Wish to be the main character who found her love eventually.

What about if the guy is shy? Do different rules apply then?

My ex still does 4, 5, 7, 8, and 10 on that list and he says he isn't sure how he feels about me. o_O

My boyfriend does practically none of those- but should I be worried?
Can't a guy just be a little more withdrawn or keep to himself?
Or just not.. be the man in the relationship?

I LIVE by that movie. I have the movie and the book. It's like a dating hand-book! I want to know why can't guys just be straight foreward? This whole guessing thing is stupid.

when my best friend has his phone (lately I've been texting him) he gets lazy. However, he does half of those things on that list. Once it was really funny because he was meeting my friends and didn't want to be late but he showered and drove well past the speed limit...

Guy here.

We're a lot simpler than girls tend to think we are - we usually agonize over the little things girls do to play hard to get (while it can be fun, it's often torturous to figure out what's going on). If a guy tells you something (and he's not a dirt bag), it's probably the truth. Classy guys don't play games for fun or to see if a girl is really interested.

Oh, and for the girl who said: "Then he has no balls or confidence. That turns me off. " I'd suggest you realize that the more perfectly confident guys tend to be those who have planned what they're doing and have had plenty of practice - in other words guys who get around. Genuine guys will usually be at least a little shy or awkward around a girl they really like.

That's one of the clear signs a guy REALLY does like you - simply being around you makes him feel nervous and flustered (either because he's afraid you won't be interested or because simply being in your presence gives him butterflies in his stomach).