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okay so this guy asked me to hook up but im not sure if im a rebound... his girl friend broke up with him like three weeks ago.. but hes always hit on me and stuff... what should i do?

You have two choices, depending on what you want. If you just want a fun, no strings attached romp, then go for it. Attack each other like your faces are made out of ice cream. Ring his cash register. Get in the naked octagon. Hook up, hang on, get down.

This guy is a perfect candidate for a funky fling. He's single, but still smarting from the break-up. He definitely doesn't want to jump into anything serious. And it will do his self-esteem wonders to re-confirm that he still has "it." I'm assuming since he's approached you that he's not in a mopey hole of depression. So there's little chance that he'll break out crying or attach himself to you like an octopus if the two of you make a mouth sandwich.

Go for it. Roller coasters don't last long.

Now, if you like this guy, if he makes your heart go thumpa-thumpa-wtf-thumpa, then back away. Keep talking to him, but let him work out his post-break up relationship with someone who just wants to play bumper cars. Think of it as an investment. Stay in his life, resist temptation, and bite your lip when he hooks up with someone who is just a rebound.

Don't be his rebound. Take the long view. Nothing grows in the shadow of old relationships. Hang out. Be cool. Good things come to those who masturbate.

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Laje Kahr

ARGH! It's "definitely".

Feel free to delete this post after fixing the typo.

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Defiantly.

Laje Kahr

Oh no, it didn't get deleted! Guess I should have been a bit nicer...

It bothers me that the wrong spelling of that word has become an internet meme.

prettylady

Despite whether she's a rebound or not, she's still a hook-up. If he wanted to be with her he'd ask her out on a date, and not just to his bed. I agree with the advice above though about not hooking up if she likes him. That's basically giving yourself a couple hours of fun followed by days to weeks of mental torture!

kara

well i do like him a little but im not ready for a relationship... so im gonna say no because ive realized that i dont want to hook up with him THANKS FOR THE HELP!!!

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WOW.. this sounds exactly like the situation I was in, except he didn't ask me into his bed.. he asked me out on several dates, always a gentleman. However, because he had just gotten out of a relationship I sweetly said no, next time, or said I had other plans. For a few years him and his ex kept getting back together and breaking up again.. About a year ago, after he was finally done and over that other chick, I gave him a shot because he continued trying.. We are now happy in love and plan on a future together.

Moral of the story, this guy who straight up asked you to hook up is a scumbag.

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Hahahahah good things come to those who masturbate. wow was not expecting that.

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