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Okay well my boyfriend is very big in sports so he has a lot of "groupies" and I don't know how he handles temptation so my question is how I handle this without making it seem like I don't trust him?

You know, you have to remember one thing here: he chose to be with you. In any conversation that you have with him, you need to remember that fact.

As far as how you bring it up to him, focus on saying how you feel. Mention that you realize he's important and that women will come flocking but it makes you uncomfortable, but you will do your best to trust him and trust that he wouldn't do anything to disrespect you.

I realize that athletes have a terrible time with temptation (Tiger Woods most recently comes to mind) so I often find myself feeling bad for their wives and girlfriends. I mean, most would assume that at some point, they might slip. However, it's just an assumption. A lot of men do not like "groupies" at all. They find solace in having a good girl to go home to that they can trust and confide in.

So my suggestion to you is that you just say how you feel and let him know that you believe in him and don't suspect he has cheated, but as a woman, it isn't comfortable for him to get all this female attention and that any human would feel some kind of way. BUT you realize that's your issue and you trust him but you just wanted to get that off your chest.

Then, naked time.

I think that will take care of it.

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Veronica

NAKED TIME! that always makes everything better. :)

The Dalai Drama

I have a high profile man, as well.

I was pretty straightforward... told him how it made me nervous -- without revealing the psycho that lies within all of us! My effective tactic: I asked him to think about how he would feel if the roles were reversed. Ever since then, he's been very forthcoming with any/all information. Additionally, he tries to include me as often as our schedules permit, so that I can see it isn't AS BAD as I think it is. He even offered to allow me to read his e-mails and text messages until I began to trust he would never, under any circumstances, stray. Obviously, I did not take him up on his offer, but, the gesture itself really spoke volumes. You two are together; he trusts you with pillow talk that could probably put himself, or his buds, in a predicament if he were to screw you over and you decided to go public -- or that his infidelities could, too! I'm not saying that I would, but, I understand that men in a power position do have that hesitation before making a major commitment to another. Don't stress because it's a turn-off. Just express yourself when you desperately need to, let him soothe you, and eventually, you won't even think twice about him possibly wandering off. Promise.

Best of luck, lady!

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