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One date. OK, a GREAT one date, but still one date. He sent me a Facebook friend request. I don't want him to be moving too fast. Is he? That's kinda a 5 or more dates thing, don't you think? What to do?

By the fifth date, there better be some serious exchanges of bodily fluids. Five dates means something is cooking. Fires are being lit. Cauldrons are boiling.

By the fifth date, I should know what color your game panties are. If it's the fifth date, then we are making out and blushing and making out again and taking a breather and then making out some more. I know what's it's like to be a piece of gum in your mouth. Our lips are raw, pants half-zipped, and we're both a little freaked out, holding hands, staring down the rabbit hole to relationship wonderland.

If you had a great first date, then freaking accept his Facebook friend request. Don't be a she-douche. It's not like a tattoo or a binding contract. You can unfriend him. Good Galactus.

I have said this before, and clearly, it needs to be said again. Facebook is not real life. It's a fun social network where you can keep people up to date on mundane things in your life. It's a time suck and seeing which of your High School friends has inflated into a fatty is always a good time.

Is there something on your Facebook page you don't want revealed? Pictures of ex-husbands? Children? Mug shots? KKK rallies? Are there pre-surgery photos of your hunchback and prehensile tail?

Or are you embarrassed that your only friends are your mom, your best friend Margaret, and Zach, who you totally think is gay, even though Maggie tells you he's been in love with you ever since you told him he has Robert Pattinson's skin?

Accept his Facebook friendship. It's not an actual "friendship," you know. And it goes both ways: if you accept his friendship, you can investigate how it is he projects himself to the world, albeit, a self-controlled world of inane public shout outs, flattering self-portraits, and stupid games where virtual gifts are given out.

If the second date tanks, maybe he'll turn into a friend. If not, unfriend him. If the second date is a gravy boat of amazing, then you have nothing to worry about.

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Megan

Really? I befriend people I've never met before in person on facebook. Just randoms from Craigslist.

ProcrastinationandCuriosity

That is so weird

ProcrastinationandCuriosity

That is so weird

Kylie

I recently went through my facebook friends and discovered that, due to failure to keep in touch or the fact that we barely knew each other to begin with, I only really think of less than a third of my facebook friends as "real people" (at least, people who were in my life in any real way). A lot of times, I get (less often I even send) friend requests to people I meet at a party once and may or may not ever see again, just because we hit it off one night. Given how this is pretty much the way most people treat facebook, it astonishes me that this is even an issue.

LifeAin't

Wait, so is she saying that a Facebook "friend request" is moving too fast? That he should only be doing that by the fifth date?

Megan

I bet she's also constipated.

Elizabeth

WHAAT?! Since when is befriending someone on Facebook a serious relationship step? Unless he sends you a whole lot of cheesy virtual gifts, constantly 'pokes' you, puts his status as 'in a relationship' with you, befriends your family, or mentions, in real life, facts about you he learnt from your year-old status updates, I don't think there's anything to worry about.

Divagirl

can't wait for the facebook wedding. ;)

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OMG is this girl serious? Im facebook friends with strangers I play games with and cool guys I met on airplanes. If I had a "great" date with someone, they probably would have been my fb friend first, if not, they SURE as he_# would have been as soon as I got home. Who are you reserving facebook for anyway?? Love the response!!!

Divagirl

I've been dating a guy for a few months and he wont even friend me on FB....but my friends tell me it's better that he calls and texts me everyday, which is REAL communication, so not to worry.
STILL, John has a point, as usual. FB is a virtual world of sorts, and an FB poke is no substitute for a real poke, but should I be worried he is hiding something, like his obsession with World of Warcraft or perhaps his dream harem of public models pages that he has become a fan of?
Not sure if I should laugh,or be afraid.
:)

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I just think that this is soooo funny. The fifth date? Really? I am friends with ANYONE who requests me as a friend..you know why? because it is JUST facebook. i am friends with this random guy in Pakistan..no joke. Whatever was lodged in your brain...needs to be taken out. Hahaha...that just makes me laugh.

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Whoa, whoa, whoa!! Yes, the original question was just weird in and of itself, I agree...after all, I was f.b. friends w/ my boyfriend before we even met...ok, ok we met online, but still! What's the big freakin' deal already??! Jesus woman, just accept him as your f.b. friend! Like John says, you can always "defriend" him anyway. (Oh and by the way John, you're hilarious and a great writer..you had me crackin' up!)

Ok, moving right along...what I find as being just as strange if not stranger is this poor Divagirl who's bee dating this jerkoff for a few months that won't friend her on f.b. WTF??!! I would be soooo freakin' pissed! It's obvious that this guy's up to no good! Of course he's calling/texting everyday cuz he's trying to divert your attention away from the fact that he won't "let" you see his f.b. profile! What the hell is he hiding??!! I bet you a month's pay that he sure as hell doesn't have "in a relationship" displayed on his wall, and more than likely has a ton of pics of himself w/ other women in various compromising positions. Woman...you better march right up to this guy and freakin' DEMAND he friend you!! I'm getting mad just thinking about it for chrissakes and it's not even happening to me! Now go! (may the Force be with you).

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Whoa, whoa, whoa!! Yes, the original question was just weird in and of itself, I agree...after all, I was f.b. friends w/ my boyfriend before we even met...ok, ok we met online, but still! What's the big freakin' deal already??! Jesus woman, just accept him as your f.b. friend! Like John says, you can always "defriend" him anyway. (Oh and by the way John, you're hilarious and a great writer..you had me crackin' up!)

Ok, moving right along...what I find as being just as strange if not stranger is this poor Divagirl who's bee dating this jerkoff for a few months that won't friend her on f.b. WTF??!! I would be soooo freakin' pissed! It's obvious that this guy's up to no good! Of course he's calling/texting everyday cuz he's trying to divert your attention away from the fact that he won't "let" you see his f.b. profile! What the hell is he hiding??!! I bet you a month's pay that he sure as hell doesn't have "in a relationship" displayed on his wall, and more than likely has a ton of pics of himself w/ other women in various compromising positions. Woman...you better march right up to this guy and freakin' DEMAND he friend you!! I'm getting mad just thinking about it for chrissakes and it's not even happening to me! Now go! (may the Force be with you).

kamakula

Unlike these other people here who care not a whit about their privacy, I will advise you on the opposite. DONT add him as a friend. I think that perhaps like me, the only people you are friends with on FB are. . .*gasp* people with whom you are actually friends. And you like to keep it that way. So do so. Ignore the request, you don't have to deny it, those things never go away until you do or the other person figures out the complicated way to cancel it, so let it float until that 2nd or 3rd date and you feel more comfortable.

What you do with your fb is your business. I would always lean to your gut instinct. Which in this case is to deny.

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People have deff read into facebook too much (guilty as well). But i mean, One time I got freaked out. This guy requested me, and I thought it was weird only cause i have a common name and there are 500 people with my name. What did he sit all day on FB to find me. Anyway, I accepted, so I guess jokes on me, and now I'm the creep, right? Oh wait.. There I go over analyzing again ;)

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