30 partners?? And he’s only 20? How can the guy stand upright? Does he walk into a room, trip and fall into the girl, and suddenly their having sex? How does he find time for school, sleep, and XBox? Has he played Red Dead Redemption? That game is great! There’s so much to do. How does he find the time for all that sex???
I’m amazed that he told you his number. That could be a sign that he actually does want to settle down and get serious with someone. It’s a sign of maturity. (Or stupidity. I’m not sure which.)
You have a couple things to consider here:
1. Do you want to lose your virginity to this guy? Clearly he’s experienced, so we won’t worry about that. And he does seem to care for you, so it doesn’t seem like you’d just be another notch on his extremely long belt. If you care about him, and trust him, the number of partners he’s had shouldn’t matter. I mean, yeah, it’s hard not to think about it now that you know. Some people would hear a number like that and assume he’s some STD-riddled him-bo. I assume you’ll be safe (please use condoms), so I’m not going to go the judgmental route and assume he has crabs or something. It isn’t fair to judge him for his past. You can be cautious of his past, but he’s young and everybody has to sow their wild oats and all that. Granted, this guy’s basically planted enough oats to open a bread factory, but let’s try to have an open mind.
2. Do you want to be lose your virginity to someone who will be going back to school in a couple of months? Do you go to the same college? If not, you have to factor in the long-distance relationship factor. Putting aside his number, this is something you should consider with anyone you lose your virginity to at this point.
Give it a little time. Have fun; enjoy your time together. If you feel like you can trust him, don’t let his past become too much of an issue. Make sure that sleeping with you is as important to him as it is to you. If your first time is coming from a true emotional place, his past won’t matter in the end. Treat him as you would a guy who isn’t into the double digits sex-wise. Everybody has their own path. Sure, he’s had a lot of sexual partners, but that could be it for him. He’s young, and could now becoming out of his wild phase. Who knows, maybe number 31′s the charm.