Why you asking me something you already know the answer to?
Sex ain't love, and there is nothing wrong with hooking up for one or a few nights without any plans for it going further. There is also nothing wrong with waiting for the right guy and marriage before having sex. Or any of the almost infinite variations in between.
Your choice. Your rules. Your responsibility.
Not me, not society, not politicians, not judges, not preachers, not even parents have the right to determine your actions. Your actions are yours and yours alone and, providing you are not hurting others, no one elses business.
That does come with a catch though. Up in Maine they say "You bought it, you own it." So if you screw up, don't hunt for blame elsewhere. You hurt someone, it is your fault. You get hurt, it is your fault. You catch pregnant, it is your responsibility. No one elses.
Responsibility suddenly got a whole lot more threatening, didn't it.
Having babies is the primary function of sex. Pleasure is just a side effect. You can't completely separate sex from reproduction, even if you use condoms and birth control. I don't have high hopes that you'd actually take responsibility for the life you might create though (through an action that was 100% your own choice). You'd probably just kill it, and you'd feel perfectly justified doing so.
Not sure if trolling or just...
k doesn't troll. I checked.
wow. the way you assume that anyone who is okay with a one night stand is an automatic "baby killer" is a nice touch. how high and mighty of you.
Who the hell said that first bit??
Having sex and makin' babies are two different things, folks. Unless you're a hard-core religious nut with the "every sperm is sacred" mentality.
*shudder* I can't believe people like this can vote and own firearms.
I agree that "there is nothing wrong with hooking up for one or a few nights without any plans for it going further." On the flip side though, I think it's important for women to think about consequences when they do choose to have sex with men they don't want to be in relationship or be intimate with. If you aren't willing to have a baby with this person, make sure you realize that it is a possibility that you will get pregnant - and YOU will be the one who has to make a choice about what to do. So, no, there is nothing wrong with doing what you want and being with whoever you want. But I think it's important to be responsible and recognize the risks involved - especially if you choose to be with a person and the consequence is pregnancy. Then you'll have some harder decisions to make than the one you wrote in about.
I won't go into technicalities about what we should and shouldn't call sex, but can we acknowledge that gay people (and animals) exist and they have sex even though they can't make babies? The earliest forms of contraception go waaaay back. Have you any idea how little sex would be had if we only had sex when we wanted to make babies? People have sex because it's fun.
Now, number or choice of partners aside, everyone has to be responsible when having sex because there's not just pregnancy but STDs to worry about. Pregnancy isn't the only possible consequence of sex, nor is willingness to have someone's baby the only way to measure levels of commitment. Not to me, anyway.
The question is whether or not you should only have sex with people you're committed to. MM's answer is that you don't have to if you don't want to, but you should always act responsibly. This is good advice. Why bring up slut shaming? Why?
...That's what's wron with this.
The primary function of sex is to create life.
FOR REAL.
That's the way it is. And many people try to bypass this and "succeed." Every person has the dignity of life, right? The right to life as in the constitution.
Sex only for pleasure is lust. I, for one, believe lust is a bad thing. I also believe acting purely on pleasure is wrong when it comes to sex. Sex is how babies are made. You can't contest with that. It's natural. So why do we have this idea that they're nothing wrong with impeding nature? Birth control does this. Contreception may have existed for thousands of years, but that doesnt make it right. By having sex without being open to children, one is impeding a possible life.
I also think this concept is wrong because sex is a huge part of love. There is love, love of the heart. But there is also a physical love that comes with it. Why is there such a thing as marriage? Becausea man and a woman love each other. What used to be the reason for marriage (unfortunately, this is changed in popular culture)? A safe environment for sex and for future children. Children should be created out of love of a man and a woman. That is the natural way. So sex is love. Though not completely on it's own. Sex is because of love. Children are because of sex. Children are because of love.
And I am probably, by some standards, and hard core religion freak, but that doesn't mean hard core religion freaks are always wrong. Basing morals on religion isn't wrong. It makes sense. Religion, and faith, are things you believe in. So are morals. If your religion and morals conflict, you've got a serious problem.
But I also believe it's wrong to stand by and let others do what you think is wrong. I can't do anything to change your minds, but an attack approach would only hurt me.
I'm not trying to argue, offend, or shut someone down. I just thought the asker, and you all should hear another viewpoint.
Dolphins have sex for the fun of it, we are not the only animals who do this and dolphins dont have the reasoning power to justify their actions, like you think we are when we separate sex and creating babies. How does that fit into your argument? It doesnt. Lust is a good thing in my books, because its a human thing and to deny your basic needs leads to all sorts of problems (pedophile priests anyone?). Its been (mostly) Christianity that has made lust an 'evil' thing, but humans have been around long before Christianity and we will be around long after Christianity, because religions rise and fall. I believe in MM's take on things, do what you want and as long as you aren't hurting others and take responsibility for your actions.
How can you or anyone say that dolphins have sex for fun? I'm sorry but this doesn't make sense. I dont get your point. It's not like they have reasoning, or contraceptives. Could you clarify?
And just so you know, they wereplenty of other denominations of Christianity and religions thT have had sex scandals.
Thesis has misconstrued that evidence.
Besides, that is off topic.
Holding back from desires makes a person stronger. A person filed by desire is weak.
What is the man has had a vasectomy or the woman a hysterectomy? Are those conditions under which it is ok to have sex since it will be impossible for the two to have children?
Who the hell are these "people" you speak of? I've sure as fack never heard anyone say that.
OMG please people. And the ONLY reason humans eat is to fuel our bodies, so by the logic being used here we should all eat only apples and oranges and perfectly healthy meals, and anytime we eat something because we like the taste and not just to fuel our bodies, we are taking a huge unnecessary risk and putting our bodies in danger of obesity and heart disease and liver failure, AND putting a strain on society - who may have to pay for our irresponsible eating decisions if we can't afford our health bills ourselves later in life. PLEASE.
I think it might be appropriate to drop in one of my guiding principles here.
"Judge not, lest ye be judged."
Keep it civil, folks.