Don't be skerred. Sorry, couldn't resist.
Is it too fast? Possibly. Possibly not. The only people who determine that are you and him. I will say that two weeks is an extremely short amount of time to meet, hell, everybody and get your own drawer in a house. But it isn't altogether the most outlandish thing ever either.
I read some story about a couple who met in, like, Arizona, got married after 10 days and have been married for the past 30 years. They couldn't be happier. It's just about finding the right person. I understand why you don't to get hurt but the truth is, do you think slowing down this ship is going to prevent that? You can get hurt by somebody you've been with forever. Just ask Maria Shriver.
I think what you're getting at is that you afraid to let youself go into the love this man is showing you and are afraid that it will stop or that the other shoe will drop. And it's possible, be it two weeks or two years. Or maybe it never will because the Rapture is coming in October instead of this past May and you'll never make it long enough for the shoe to drop. It's kind of what makes life worth living.
I can't in good faith tell you to just trust this man's impulses (that's what it sounds like, he goes really hard really quickly) so maybe just let him know that it might be moving faster than you're ready for and that you need to slow down a bit to enjoy the ride. He'll probably understand even if he doesn't agree. But if he really likes you like that, then hey, good luck, Chuck.
And I do think age might play a part in it. He's out of a marriage, maybe he liked the married life and wants that again. Talk to him about that.
Talk.
I think the tag says it all. 2 wks? you've met his kids? I've been dating a guy for four months and we have 5 kids between us who we haven't introduced to each other yet. If a guy was like this with me, I'd be all *whoa* no matter how much I liked him. And, if a girl did this for a guy, generally speaking, he'd be at the bar with his buddies stat dishing about the latest clingon. But like PJ said, every situation is different and this stuff DOES happen all the time tho. Nothing wrong with taking it slow either, if I learned anything from divorce it was just that. I've also found, the slower things go, the fewer of these confusing questions there are as well. Good luck :)
good lookin out PJ....thanks for the support and advice, and for the Rapture and Maria Shriver points. Well played, sir. I'll keep y'all updated.
Chrissie - thanks for your input. Yes, he prefers to be in a relationship versus dating, and is open, very communicative and mature, while being fun and easy going. It's a huge learning curve for me to be in a relationship with a guy who's not commitment phobic, irresponsible or self involved! :)
Oh I know that feeling lol after you've been with a few douches, it's REALLY hard to believe it when someone isn't, learning curve puts it mildly lol I agree with PJ about demographic as well, if it was a 20 yr old asking the question there would be cause for way more concern. you have your own head on your shoulders though obviously, so you be fine, all the best :)
I would slow things down. I'm not saying this is the situation but many people with abusive tendencies and certain mental illnesses tend to attach to people quickly.
that is a really, really good point. they have to, if you take too long with them they are afraid you will figure them out so they try and lock you in as early as they can so they can start the real work. really good point.