I'll be blunt back: the best blow jobs are the enthusiastic ones.
There is no bigger turn off than a woman who treats mouth love like it's a chore. And this is non-gender specific sex advice: one of the best ways to get your partner off is to really, really be into getting your partner off. That's like, 60% of the equation.
So go down... with gusto! The rest is technique and common sense.
For instance: lick the shaft and stroke the balls, and then mix it up. Stroke the shaft and lick the balls. Keep it interesting. If you find a rhythm he likes, don't stop. How do you know if he likes it? Learn to interpret his grunts, read his body language, and if all else fails, take a moment to come up for air and whisper, "Do you like this?" Normally, when it comes to getting head, silence is not a bad thing. If you've done something that hurts or that we don't like, we'll let you know
As for what not to do: be wary of too much teeth. Keep those pearly whites far away from his sensitive man parts. Don't treat his wang like a corncob. And, as always, ask him if he likes what you're doing. Make it part of the game. It's sexy when someone is singularly obsessed with your pleasure. He should return this favor when he's going down on you.
Everybody happy now?
Unless he likes teeth.
But I'd ask first since most don't.
more blunt advice...lol?
watch porn.
i learned the spit/slobber technique (sounds gross but guys LOVE IT) to make sure he stays all slippery. Nothing worse than a dry bone. haha ;)
Wow, this girl needs advice on what's grammatically correct as well. I was reading this title to a friend and it was so awkard. You can't just start out a sentence with "pretty blunt". Would it have been so difficult to use articles before phrases? The first sentence is a question but it has a period at the end. The second is a weird phrase that randomly gets a question mark! I'm sorry for the rant but this level of language is what I'd expect from a child. Although, I hope I no child is asking this.....LOL
Rach honey,
Take a chill pill.
DeVore,
loved your answer!
Yes, clearly GuySpeak.com should be the bastion of proper grammar and usage. How dare someone even bother submitting a question that has not been proofread and copy edited twice, nay, THRICE!
Ummmmm relax, "Rach." Welcome to the 21st century. LOLZZZZ!!!!
Rach is the grammar police!!! Everyone grab your keyboards and run!
"Although, I hope I no child is asking this.....LOL"
Well, even the grammar police make mistakes.
and don't talk too much. it's alright to check up on him, but don't do it too often. also, don't talk/ask about anything that isn't related to what's at hand.. or rather what's at... well u'know.
I love your words of wisdom here, DeVore. I learned a little something new about what guys like. Thanks. ;)
I have an oral fixation and love giving blowjobs. I enjoy every moment of doing it, so if the best blow jobs are the enthusiastic ones, I give the best ones. And proud of it!
This is the sole reason I feel I have something to add to John’s expertise. (That, and I once made a guy pass out using my skills. But, I digress.)
Pay attention to how he “feels” when you do certain things and you will notice what he responds to.
Holding the teeth out of the way can be tricky at first, and it can get really distracting and uncomfortable. If you have to, wrap your lips around them to be sure not to make contact, at least until you are skilled at the craft. And be gentle even at that. No matter how much it looks like a kielbasa, it isn't one. Teeth WILL hurt him, and you don't want that. EVER.
Finally, keep going until he’s finished. It’s frustrating to watch all your hard work (pun intended, hee hee :) disappear before it’s done. It‘s like losing a Word document because you didn‘t save it.
Mkay! Now you're singing my song! I am one of the many women out there with a legendary oral fixation. One thing to remember is that although the goal is to get your man completely crazy by giving him a hell of a blow job, it's also your job to keep it hot & sexy.
* You want to see his reaction to know what's working for him and what isn't. It's also very hot to see his Fred Sanford - hand over his heart saying, "OMG, this is the big one, Elizabeth! I'm comin' for you, Sweetheart!" LOL
* So, instead of having him lay down, you to the side and you can only see his cock & below, go in between his legs face first. This is so you can slither into him, he can watch you work it, you can see his expression, and it's hot to make sexy eye contact (if his eyes aren't already rolled in the back of his head) while you're going down on him, throw your head back (hair toss) a couple of times, like DeVore said, be enthusiastic like it's the best fucking lollipop you've ever had. :)
Techinique 101: I've never had to ask a man what he wants or what he likes when giving head...it's a gift...
* Just like with sex, it's not just about going straight for it, there's foreplay. There's foreplay with giving head, too. What many women don't know is there are a LOT of erogenous zones & hot areas for men that are begging to be teased. For example, the area below his navel and leading down to his cock is extremely sensitive. Lick it it up & down a couple of times. He'll be dying w/anticipation if you're going to go all the way down. While doing the licking thing I mentioned, I also lightly run my fingernails down the sides of his body from chest to waist. HOT
* Running your fingernails lightly along his inner thighs will make him tweak out, too. Then, french kiss the tip of his cock, flick your tongue back & forth on the hole. Put just the tip in your mouth and swirl your tongue around it. Cue sexy eye contact. Next, lick the shaft up & down a few times, slowly, like licking the best ice cream cone ever.
* Now, take take 1/2 of his cock in (still teasing a bit), while stroking the bottom of his shaft. Don't forget about his balls, lightly cup, massage, & lick those while giving head, too.
* By now, you may want to look up & give a sexy glance to make sure this mother fucker is still alive. LOL. Now take it ALL in, which may be hard if he's well-endowed, but he'll appreciate you taking in as much as you can. This is where the enthusiam especially comes into play. No teasing anymore, he's already well on his way to finishing. Now comes the rapid head bob and sucking until he's done.
Remember: spitters are quitters. LOL. Don't ruin his pleasure & yours by acting like swallowing his cum is gross.
Class dismissed...if you'll excuse me, I need a lollipop or something to suck on. :)
OMG "I" much like you also LUV giving head and i have to tell u when I read this line i was cracking up SO hard!!! "By now, you may want to look up & give a sexy glance to make sure this mother fucker is still alive." luv it girl yur the best! ROFL :D
My bf says I give "the best" blowjobs ALL the time but, I feel like they are boring. I def mix in a lot of different techniqes, more so than you mentioned but, I can't help but to think I'm bad at the act. When it comes to fourplay I keep thinking "Am I using to much tonge, and should I be doing other stuff as well?" When it comes to the actual blowjob my mouth gets tired and I have to stop and do something else then go back to sucking, this makes me feel like I'm not doing it properly. How long "should" a blow job actually last and how fast should you suck?
That was hilarious and some of the best-delivered advice I've ever gotten. Seriously, you need to come out with a book. I would go out and buy it right now.
there is this great book by kama sutra that is all about giving oral sex...im a professional..but you know maybe those who dont know how, could go to the book store and read it for some good tips...I learn a couple new ones but yes I LOVE IT
there is nothing like a man moaning and acting like a little b*tch lol when I do it lol lol I love it when he loves it
How long should a blow job last? Is there a such thing as to much tongue? When actually sucking how fast should you go??
Every guy is different. Ask the receiver of your wonder love.
I hate giving head, I fake the enthusiasm and he never notices. These responses had me laughing my ass off.
brought back some great memories girl, when u said lick it like its the best ice cream u,ve had and suck it like a lolilop lol. my boyfriend says this to me with my eyes rolled back i would suck on that cock like its the best candy i,ve ever had. when u done with him u has to worship that pussy of yours in return without a doubt
Hey girls! I've just read Jack's Blowjob Lessons and finally improved my blow job skills, i think learning how to give a blow job is essential for your relationship and keeping your man and yourself happy
Just don't do that, that's icky!!!