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Recently my boyfriend randomly told me that if I don't go down on him, he won't go down on me. He knows that I think that my mouth is a little too precious for that, and we've never had this problem in the past. Not only do I think that this is unfair, but I have no idea why it's suddenly an issue for him.

How is this "unfair" in any way, shape, or form? The only thing unique about this is that the genders are flipped: usually it's the woman insisting that there should be some reciprocation. I'm not saying you should go down on him if you don't want to; if that's a boundary for you, he needs to respect it. At the same time, though, it's hard to see his refusal to do something to you that you won't do to him is in any way "unfair".

As to why it's an issue, there's nothing "random" about this: this has probably been building for a while. If he goes down on you, and you're not willing to return the favor, of course it's going to bother him. Especially when you tell him something like "my mouth is a little too precious for that." Soooo...what you're saying is you think it's beneath you, but he needs to get down there and get to work.

Again, if you don't want to do it, don't. But you need to respect the fact that if he doesn't want to do it, he doesn't have to, either.

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In all my long years I have never heard anyone say "my mouth is a little too precious for that." I have to say that if I was the guy here I'd be searching for someone whose mouth is a little less precious. Not that oral sex is the be all and end all but the "princess" attitude is more than a bit of a turn-off.

Lunita

That's exactly what I was thinking. What a weird thing to say.

Ruru

I may have to find a way to work "My mouth is too precious for that" into daily conversations, just for fun. xD

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Do you have no respect for your boyfriend? Or are you just that selfish? Probably both. I mean how little do you think of him if you expect him to do something you consider degrading? I'm surprised you let him kiss you, considering where his mouth has been. Then again you might not. Maybe he just decided you precious slit was too important for his lowly vulgar mouth to touch. Grow up! Nobody is saying you have to go down on him, but an adult relationship is about reciprocity. Don't expect him to give more than you're willing to. Because right now it seems like he's all give and you and your precious mouth is all take.

goodkarmagirl

I don't understand the "precious" comment. Is it cultural? (like a cleanliness thing?) or are you being sarcastic?

I agree with reciprocating whatever it is in a relationship. (Thoughtfulness, consideration, sex, gifts, etc).
If you are grossed out by doing oral, perhaps you should try to perfect your hand job skills...and maybe you can do that to each other instead.

good luck!

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Wow, didn't your question answer itself? Yes, it's unfair for you to demand certain acts you are not willing to reciprocate. I'm sure it's bothered him for some time, and he finally told you, so good for him.

So, you can either suck it up (pun intended) or expect him to move on to someone who is looking for a more intimate relationship. It's not like he's asking for a boston steamer...THAT I would turn my nose up to. Again pun intended.

Thank you. I'll be here all week.

Dan Seitz

Hey, hey, it's a "Cleveland Steamer" thank you very much, and it will remain so until Cleveland wins a World Series or Super Bowl.

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Aw, man. My response went away again. Not sure if they're being deleted, or if this comments section is frakked. Either way, frustration.

Mystery Man

Saw your comment, Mouse, and checked for you - your comment disappeared into the great unknown. Have reported it.

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Thanks, man. :) I'm seeing a lot of reader loyalty around here lately; it's nice to see. x

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Her mouth is too precious but his doesnt? wow! what a disrespectful comment!

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Agreed. That is definitely the thing that irks me most about the asker.

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Yeah, this girl IS a princess and her attitude is ridiculous! WTF does your mouth have to do outside of the relationship that it's so damned precious?! Are you a lipstick model, opera singer...? If your "precious mouth" isn't what you make your living with, then shut up or reciprocate.

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Thanks, man. :) I'm seeing a lot of reader loyalty around here lately; it's nice to see. x

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I love girls like her- they make the rest of us real women look even better. Thanks you horrible bitch!

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