First of all, let me say that your boyfriend feeling hurt over a lack of sex having is totally understandable. Sex is like water for us. And when you--the one person he's allowed to get water from--aren't into it, it's like he's wandering through the desert and you're a big pitcher of water that won't let him dip his penis in you.

But the fact of the matter is, the human sex drive is a capricious and whimsical pixie, and any manner of factors could be affecting yours. It could speak to a deep and complex web of psychological issues stemming from childhood trauma. Or stress. Seriously, if you've got a lot on your plate right now at work or school, it could easily be as simple as that.

And how long have you two been dating? Right around the three-to-six-month mark, most couples experience a drop off in the chemical cocktail that led you to hump like rabbits in the first place. It's just biological holmes. Maybe you two aren't syncing up, or maybe your boyfriend is a man and men always love sex always forever and ever, amen.

Once you've figured out the reason your sex drive has taken a dip (or even if you're not quite sure), there are plenty of ways to try and stoke the fires again. Novelty is a big one. Aren't there any fantasies you've never indulged with your guy? Maybe now's the time. Break out the umbrella and vaseline and go to town. Or buy one of those awesome adult board games. We like this one.

That's just half of the equation. The most important thing here is letting your man know that A) this is temporary and B) it says nothing nothing nothing about your feelings for him. That can be a hard point for us guys to grasp, especially when you're not grasping our hard point.

When the woman we're used to having sex with doesn't want to have sex with us, a big alarm goes off in our brains telling us that we did something or failed to do something that's making this happen, and if we can't figure out what it is, we'll never get to have sex again and die cold and alone.

Honestly, I don't think most women understand the powerful and immediate emotional effect it has on a guy to realize he ain't gettin' laid tonight. It's like someone kicking your heart in its little heart-sticles.

So be tender, be gentle, be understanding. But don't force anything. If you're ever going to get your mojo grooving again, forcing yourself to have sex isn't the way to do it. You'll just end up associating sex with a chore, and believe me, neither of you wants that.

On your end, make the effort to look into why this could be happening and find ways to reverse the trend. On his end, let him know he needs to understand that it's not about him and his virile manliness, which is very impressive indeed.

And hell, if he's not doing something the way you want it, tell him that. If you want him to initiate sex more, or less, or in a different way, he'll be grateful to be armed with that knowledge. Your vagina is the treasure; give him the treasure map.

Trust me, he'll be more than happy to put the work in on his end (and hopefully soon be putting work in on your end as well. Eh? EH? AMIRITE?!)