Here's what you do:
1. Go to the bar often. Become a regular, though not in a stalker-y way. Bring friends with you. Tell them you have a thing for the bartender and encourage them to come with you for support.
2. BE POLITE. I cannot stress this one enough. I know tons of bartenders (and have even dated a few), and they all appreciate polite customers. They also never forget the jerks.
3. If it's busy, don't offer to buy her a drink. She's working, and her boss might frown on her drinking on the job.
4. Go during off-hours or slow times. Early in the evening, weekend afternoons. Don't go at 11pm on a Saturday and assume she'll have time to talk to you. The likelihood of her talking to you greatly increases when the bar is empty and she's bored. If it's slow, order a drink and then offer to buy her one as well. Or just talk and flirt a little. DON'T BE CREEPY. Be friendly, and cool and let her know you're a normal guy and not a trouble customer she'll have to worry about. Try to get to her know her and make her comfortable with you. If you're a regular and become friends, she might also have a drink with you after last call. Use anytime that she isn't slammed with customers to talk or flirt. But don't be pushy. When she's busy, leave her alone. If you're getting a vibe that you're annoying her, leave her alone.
5. Tip well. It never hurts, plus you're helping her make rent.
Keep in mind, she may have a rule against dating customers. Some bartenders do. For one thing, it might get her fired. Or maybe she doesn't want to "S where she E's," if you catch my drift. Also, be aware that she might just consider you a nice guy at the place she works and not someone to date. Bartenders dating customers is not unheard of, but it is a service industry. There is still that customer/employee barrier that you'll need to work around. Once you've gotten to know her, suggest doing something outside of the bar. If you know that a band she likes is in town, mention that you have an extra ticket. But if she turns you down, drop it.
Good luck. If nothing else, you might meet someone else on your frequent nights out at the pub.
1. Go to the bar often. Become a regular, though not in a stalker-y way. Bring friends with you. Tell them you have a thing for the bartender and encourage them to come with you for support.
2. BE POLITE. I cannot stress this one enough. I know tons of bartenders (and have even dated a few), and they all appreciate polite customers. They also never forget the jerks.
3. If it's busy, don't offer to buy her a drink. She's working, and her boss might frown on her drinking on the job.
4. Go during off-hours or slow times. Early in the evening, weekend afternoons. Don't go at 11pm on a Saturday and assume she'll have time to talk to you. The likelihood of her talking to you greatly increases when the bar is empty and she's bored. If it's slow, order a drink and then offer to buy her one as well. Or just talk and flirt a little. DON'T BE CREEPY. Be friendly, and cool and let her know you're a normal guy and not a trouble customer she'll have to worry about. Try to get to her know her and make her comfortable with you. If you're a regular and become friends, she might also have a drink with you after last call. Use anytime that she isn't slammed with customers to talk or flirt. But don't be pushy. When she's busy, leave her alone. If you're getting a vibe that you're annoying her, leave her alone.
5. Tip well. It never hurts, plus you're helping her make rent.
Keep in mind, she may have a rule against dating customers. Some bartenders do. For one thing, it might get her fired. Or maybe she doesn't want to "S where she E's," if you catch my drift. Also, be aware that she might just consider you a nice guy at the place she works and not someone to date. Bartenders dating customers is not unheard of, but it is a service industry. There is still that customer/employee barrier that you'll need to work around. Once you've gotten to know her, suggest doing something outside of the bar. If you know that a band she likes is in town, mention that you have an extra ticket. But if she turns you down, drop it.
Good luck. If nothing else, you might meet someone else on your frequent nights out at the pub.
If I were answering these questions, using the phrase "damn American" would guarantee I deleted your question immediately.