Yes, do what you have to do to get your cookie. You deserve it. Besides, a healthy sexual relationship is one where both partners are on a mission to make sure the other gets down, gets it on, and gets off.

I had a girlfriend once ask me if she could touch herself "down there" whilst we were in the midst of a rollicking sexual tussle. I laughed and told her she didn't have to ask my permission. It seems her last lover took it personally. Women are notoriously tricky when it comes to climaxing. Oftentimes, vaginal intercourse just isn't enough. Direct stimulation of the clitoris is what's needed. He was threatened. I understand where you're coming from: there are men who are insulted if their woman requires a little extra ladyflower attention. Some of these guys are misinformed, or letting their insecurities get the better of them. Others are just straight up meat baskets. I'm going to assume your guy is not the latter.

If you are one of those dudes freaked out by your lady jerking it while pounding it out, and you are reading this: first, stop moving your lips. Oh, I'm kidding (say hi to your sister for me.) Seriously: you know what impresses a woman? A guy who will split mountains in half with his face, triangle choke hold thunder, and slurp up the ocean with a bendy straw in order to make sure his woman finishes, with fireworks.

And it doesn't even take Herculean feats to ensure she has the Big "O." Talk dirty to her, lick her where she asks you to, and let her hands wander while you do your nasty thing.

If he flinches or is insulted, give him one "Get Out Of Jail Free Card." Explain to him that he's getting you so hot, that you HAVE to toggle your bean in order to have your brains blown out. It's not him: it's just a minor, minor tragedy of biological design. If he relaxes and lets nature take it course, you'll both be a lot happier.