Unfortunately, you can't force your boyfriend to have sex with you.
If he doesn't want to have sex with you during your period, it's not going to happen. Regardless of what your flow is, he's just not interested. You need to have a conversation with him about it. Tell him that you're offended and hurt that he doesn't find you attractive during that time of the month. Ask him if there is anything you can do to make him more comfortable. Hopefully he'll be honest and you both can figure out some ways around his apprehension.
That said, if he's still reluctant to have sex during your period and you continue to think it's a big deal, then you need to consider a change. Sex is, of course, an incredibly important part of any relationship, and if the sex isn't satisfying you, then you should think about moving on. Sexual frustration, if gone untreated, can doom a relationship. And it might be best to end it now before you grow to completely resent him.
Ladies, is this a problem you've had to deal with?
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Have you tried the depo shot? It stops your monthly for like 6 months that's a win/win he don't have to worry about getting ketchup on his hot-dog and you don't have to worry about getting knocked up or buying tampons/pads for 6 months! :)
Or she could be a little more understanding and realize it is not personal. There are many men that don't want to have sex during a woman's cycle. And there are also many men that don't care. You just happen to have a guy that does not like it. I would say you need to consider if this is an issue that is worth causing problems in your relationship. How long does your flow last 3-5 days? Receive his massage graciously as he is trying to give you something in exchage for not having sex.
I think you are making a mountain out of a mole hill. You are not respecting him in this situation and being selfish. If he just ignored you and did not offer a massage and feel bad, I would say he was being the ass.
Dude, I would happily go 3-5 days without sex if I was getting back rubs instead! (Of course, he'd get a rub of his own in return)
Also, I've found that taking a little break from sex can be really awesome because then when you break your "fast", your hormones are all built up and needy which makes for a lot of passion
You could always do what I do:
Only ask for period sex if you're just so damn horny you need it NOW
***and***
Offer anal in return. (If he's into that. Most guys I know are oddly obsessed with it and even the girls who let them only give it on their birthdays or when they want something, which I think is weird as hell, but that's just me.)
Ps. If he still says no, don't take it personal. Run yourself a hot bath with scented candles and invest in a few toys for your own personal you-time. Just because you're with a guy doesn't mean there's anything at all wrong with taking care of yourself once and a while.
Some people just can't handle blood, much less blood mixed with girly goo smells. It's really, really not an insult. I mean, if guys had dead tissue blood in their semen once a month, would you still want them squirting all in your junk/on your skin/in your mouth?
There is also a 'cup' available at your local drugstore that allows for a less messy option. I just keep them handy for period sex and use the regular divacup the rest of the time.
This is the worst advice I've ever read on here. I'm actually in shock that MM would advise to consider leaving the man because he doesn't want to sleep with this immature brat while she has her period. The idea of a menstrual cycle grosses a LOT of people out, it is not personal, it is BLOOD, she should grow the hell up and realize she is being ridiculous. For a couple of days a month she doesn't get exactly what she needs when she needs it at the expense of her boyfriend's comfort and she should leave him? I think it should be the other way around! If this was a man writing in saying his girlfriend is not giving him on demand sex I doubt the advice would be to leave her because she is wrong.
Your bf is not being unreasonable.
This is honestly an unfortunate situation, you're making a mountain out of a mole hill, as once said before. You expect your boyfriend to be understanding of you being on your monthly cycle and want sex because it helps.
Don't get me wrong, I understand that it helps out, but preferably I don't like having sex on my cycle because I feel it's disgusting. Think about it from his view though! He's offering something else that will help relax you in return because, quite honestly, periods aren't the most elegant thing we come across. During period sex you're getting relief, yes, but if he doesn't like the thought of it it's not being selfish. He hasn't had this every month since he was a teenager, he's not as used to it as we girls are. It's perfectly reasonable for him to not want to.
If you still think he's being rude, or what not, propose having sex in the shower. He might like the thought of a different location and the upside that it'll be cleaner "down there", also if he still has blood on himself at the end; he's in the shower, wash it off. But he's his own person, it's selfish of you to ask him to do something he doesn't want to do.
My one complaint about guys is when they rev you up when you're on your period, ask for a sexual favor and then expect you to be fine not receiving in return. If THAT happens, I personally say you are free to dump the guy.
Otherwise, I'm sorry... if he is willing to rub you down and make you comfortable in other ways, at least he is willing to compromise! Otherwise, there is masturbation to satisfy sexual urges.
I will say I do agree with MM, if it is really something that urkes you, then you can break up. Sexual compatibility is important. If the sexual compatibility is off, realize you're going to have this the whole relationship. If it is a big enough deal that isn't going to be solved, then break up. The resentment is only going to build.