While the answer to this question seems like common sense to me, I know plenty of women who seem to ask similar questions. Just yesterday, a friend of mine asked me if she should wait around for a guy who was flirting with the idea of them being together but wasn’t sure if had the time in his schedule.
To me it was like, “hell no, you have no idea what you’re even waiting on.” But for her, that just didn’t suffice.
Anyway, from a practical standpoint, yes you should move on. You could be waiting on him for one day or ten years, and neither you nor he knows how long that will be. Probably never, actually.
You see, that’s a line you throw at somebody that you’re trying to let down easy. If I hate you and I’m trying to break up with you, I tell you to drop dead or move to Siberia so I never have to see you again. If I like you as a person, I might try to lighten the load by adding some sort of optimistic possibility for the future even if I know in my heart that I don’t really mean it.
From another angle, it’s kind of messed up to tell a woman who’s in love with you (if I may assume that love is present) that perhaps you can be together later. That’s stringing somebody along if I’ve ever seen it. I know you have to let people be responsible for their own actions, and possibly that’s what dude was doing, but the fact is, when emotions are present, logic, common sense, and reality tend to go straight out the window. So your dude is kind of unintentionally a jerk for saying that to you.
So yes, bottom line, you should move on. Hope springs eternal, and chances are, you really don’t have that long.
It was written.