Yes, it should bother you. Every guy knows that you take a quick glance, and then immediately focus on your girlfriend. If she's caught you, then you've failed. And you certainly don't linger. That's just disrespectful. (Yes, not looking at all would actually be respectful, but, what is this, Communist China? Give a guy a break every once in a while.)
Call him out. Let him know that he was very obviously eye f-ing that girl and it was making you uncomfortable. If it was a one-time thing, give him grief and move on. He's human, and we all do dumb things occasionally. Hopefully he'll realize that it upset you and cut it out. (Or at least not be so obvious next time.)
If this is an ongoing issue, you should have a serious conversation. If he's really blatant about it, your friends will notice, putting you in an awkward situation. Let him know that it hurts you. Ask him if he's happy. A constantly wandering eye is usually a sign that he's unhappy in the relationship.
Also, let him know that church is sooo not the place to be doing that. Jesus didn't die just so he could gawk at some poor, unsuspecting woman's derriere.
Call him out. Let him know that he was very obviously eye f-ing that girl and it was making you uncomfortable. If it was a one-time thing, give him grief and move on. He's human, and we all do dumb things occasionally. Hopefully he'll realize that it upset you and cut it out. (Or at least not be so obvious next time.)
If this is an ongoing issue, you should have a serious conversation. If he's really blatant about it, your friends will notice, putting you in an awkward situation. Let him know that it hurts you. Ask him if he's happy. A constantly wandering eye is usually a sign that he's unhappy in the relationship.
Also, let him know that church is sooo not the place to be doing that. Jesus didn't die just so he could gawk at some poor, unsuspecting woman's derriere.
Yeah, I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriend does this all of the time. He doesn't understand that it really hurts me and it makes me want to do something unfaithful just to get his attention but I'm not like that. HE JUST DOESN'T know how to stop. And he doesn't appreciate the fact that he's one of those guys that's with a girl who is way out of their league, physically and mentally. I really don't know how to deal with this situation, should I just do the same thing and be even or what? He's just an insensitive jackass..
Maybe dump the insensitive jackass and find a good man. Maybe you like being disrespected continuously. C'mon now, this is a story that is as old as dirt. Some people have a tendency to wanna stay with a person who abuses them because they think they can change the person. Trust me...This isn't going to stop until you put yourself first and get rid of this moron.
Best of luck, I used to be in the same position. But I'd rather be alone then in the company of a dickhead.
This is an on-going debate in my head. Sometimes I think my boyfriend is checking out other women, but then I wonder if it's just my insecurity since I am very insecure. The one time I brought it up, he seemed to sincerely not know what I was talking about.
I almost fell out of my chair when I read:
"Jesus didn't die just so he could gawk at some poor, unsuspecting woman's derriere."
**snicker** Love it!