Nope. If you know he's not interested, you're just putting him in an unnecessary awkward position to have to tell you that he's not interested.
Which is something you already know. So it puts you back to square one except now you will odd convos and uncomfortable face-to-faces with your closest guy friend. You might actually slightly mess up the relationship.
If you thought that there was some chance of him being interested in you, then of course. Go for it. Closed mouths don't get fed. But that doesn't sound like your situation, so there's no good reason to create that conversation.
But since I believe in love and happiness, and all that Al Green stuff, perhaps you can allude to it without saying it. Be extra flirty and girly and see if he responds to it in anyway. Since you all are close, he won't just look at you as some chick who's flirting that he can get in the sack easily. In fact, he might break some sort of manlaw and talk to you about it to make sure that you are both on the same page, where you can exert some plausible deniability and say you were just flirting because he's so much fun, etc. Or you can just blame it on the al-al-al-al-alcohol. It works every time. Patron you my homey.
So yes, be easy. Enjoy your friend. Maybe something will blossom. But if you know right now that he's just not that into you (lol), then there's no reason to force an issue where you know the end result.
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Well, i'm kinda in the same situation with my best friend but i think he might like me too...we flirt all the time and i sit on his lap, ect. but it's never went anywhere. this has been going on for about six months and i dont kno what to do. My female friends always tell me to talk to him about it but i dont want to mess up our friendship and make everything awakward if he's not into me. but i just don't kno how to tell if he is or not since he's never vocalized it, help anyone??
you can sit on his lap and flirt with him, but youre afraid saying anything will make things awkward? REALLY?
Yeah. If he lets you on his lap, then he likes you. Or at least is definitely interested in having you "ride his disco stick".
Disco stick! Haha totally appropriate.
Well, i'm kinda in the same situation with my best friend but i think he might like me too...we flirt all the time and i sit on his lap, ect. but it's never went anywhere. this has been going on for about six months and i dont kno what to do. My female friends always tell me to talk to him about it but i dont want to mess up our friendship and make everything awakward if he's not into me. but i just don't kno how to tell if he is or not since he's never vocalized it, help anyone??
Panama's totally right. No. No. and No!!!
I agree. I was friends with my BF for over a decade. We dated briefly and I freaked out. Went separate ways then crossed paths again and basically became best friends. I kept getting strange vibes from him....and noticed every time I left, the goodbye hug got longer and tighter. Still thought I was misreading and didn't say anything, even though I was TOTALLY falling for him. Then one day, he asked me if I'd ever thought of the two of us together again. After almost a year and a half of on-again, off-again dating, he told me he loves me and wants to give it an honest shot.
So, take Panama's advice. Flirt with him and see if he responds. If he does, play it cautiously and take it slowly. If he doesn't, the focus on making the friendship as strong as you can. My guy, before we started dating, was my man expert. He'd help me decode male behavior.....so, maybe if your guy friend isn't that into you, he can help you find THE guy. :D
'If you know a friend's not interested, you're just putting them in an unnecessary awkward position to have to tell you that they're not interested.'
(sorry Panama I had to tweek your quote a lil bit XD)
That quote is SO true! If you know that the friend isn't feeling it beyond friendship don't say a thing! I know it can be hard to resist because I've been there myself but don't do it! I have 2 things to tell you and they will prove this point very well.
1) I just went through a break up almost 2 weeks ago with a guy I truly loved. It sucked ass but not as bad as when one of my guy friends (he is living with me and my dad at the moment) told me less than a week after the break up that I could see his 'stuff' anytime I wanted and that it wouldn't 'mean anything'. Well I just ignored these comments because he knows with no doubts that I'm not interested in anything like that with him ever. He knows I see him as like a brother. Well behold it put a major strain on our friendship. Now it's so akward to be in the same room as him simply because he went and asked/said that stupid stuff. He himself says it was stupid to do and wants to totally give up on everything he's trying to do right now because of it! I told him to not quit school that that was a HUGE over reaction to that not to mention it'd hurt himself to throw out all that hard work for school. The reason it put strain on my end is because he's seen me go through and deal with 3 break ups now and I would have figured that after so many years of being friends and seeing how break ups affect me (I'm always a wreck for a few weeks after no matter how long the relationship was so long as it was 6 or more months) to not say such things but apparently not. Let's not forget this lil nugget: He asked if I still viewed him as a friend or something else now. So now he's taken to hiding in his room or simply not being here to avoid that akward feeling.
2) I have yet another friend who has told me he wants to date me, but there is a difference with this one. The thing with him is that he's let me know he likes me but never gets pushy about it. He calls to see how I'm handling the break up and reminds me to not rush into anything. This one also let me know if I ever felt he was coming on to strong to tell him and he'd back off because he doesn't want to scare or hurt me. This friendship is far easier to be around simply because the guy is being gentle and considerate with me. He's offered to take me to neat places and such but not to get a chance to be alone with me but just because I haven't ever gotten to go flying or been to a themed hotel or been in a full size jetted tub, you know just stupid small things but because he thinks they'd be fun things to do he offers to take me. When he makes any offer like that though he always makes sure I'm ok with going to those places with him because yet again he's just looking out for me and making sure that I'm ok, if ever I felt like I didn't want to then we'd figure out something else even if all it ends up being is just sittin at a park and talking while drinking coffee.
So if you do feel the unresistable urge to tell him do it like my friend 2 is doing with me start small and easy but reassure him that if things get strange or akward to him that you'll back off once he tells you, otherwise if you don't you may end up with a friend 1 situation like mine.
Okay, I have a similar situation I like one of my best guys friends and I KNOW he likes me too. However I don't want to risk messing up our awesome friendship because we dated and got in a fight or something. And if we did date and break up we would still have to see each other every weekend because we bowl on the same team. Am I being to cautious or realistic?
Im in the same situation I like me best guy friend but I dont want to mess up our awesome friendship. We flirt like normal single peope do but not enough to know he likes me. Should I tell him or just leave it alone?
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