Nothing silly about handholding. In fact I think its one of the most powerful and suggestive body moves out there. Name me another motion that signifies union, trust and belonging like the classic handhold. Now, as to your question: I would try to avoid the verbalizing thing when it comes to this. Having a woman reach for your hand - on a walk, at a movie, between two simmering cups of chai latte can be more exhilarating than a loveless blowjob. In short: Getting some finger play when it means something means everything. It's cementing good intentions and is the ultimate low-profile bonder ™. And, unlike other acts, the handholding is fairly non invasive too and that's why not asking but doing should be attempted. Plus, think about how awkward it will be when the guy says, "yes." Then there will be that momentary pause where it's like "OK, well here I go for your hand and in two seconds we will be... Ah, there we go."
I will also add that you should trust your gut and the vibe. If it feels right it likely is. And if not and he gives you the hand - well now you know. No point in building a relationship in your head that doesn't exist on in the real.
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Silly question for you funny guy. Is it cool to ask a guy if he likes to hold hands?
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I dated a guy who intertwined his fingers with mine on our first date. Later in the relationship, after we'd started having sex, I did the same to him one day while watching TV and he flipped out. He said he was not ready for that kind of thing as it was "too much". Then he said he did not want that from me. Although I feel he had some sort of personality disorder, I calmly told him that holding/touching his hand showed me where we really are in the relationship, and that a guy who freaks out over his hand being touched in private by a girl who he's slept with every night for the past 3 nights is not a guy I want to be with. So I guess what I'm trying to say is, personality disorder aside, these small gestures and reactions to them can clarify a lot in a relationship.
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