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So, I love my man.But my problem is this: I know I'm not the best sex he's ever had. (No he hasn't said anything.) The best blow job yes, but not the best sex. He's been my first and only.I think it's my inability to master girl on top. Any tips to either improve or to get my shy guy to give me some direct instruction?

First of all, these aren't NASCAR rankings. What's important is that you want to be with each other. So, keep that first and foremost in your mind.

Secondly, girl-on-top is a problematic position because people learn about it from porn, which is the worst conceivable guide to this particular position. Instead of trying to pogo up and down, trying rocking back and forth slightly, moving your hips in a circular motion, or having him take the lead for a little while.

Also worth remembering: some guys enjoy girl-on-top, but can't finish in that position for various reasons. So don't worry about it: have fun and let things come naturally.

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Hi OP. As someone who is now in my early 30's and has had….umm…..extensive (yes that's the word I was looking for), experience, I can honestly say I'm just now really mastering the girl-on-top. Dan is totally right when he says most peope learn it from porn. And by the way guys this is one reason many women dislike porn, it just confuses the hell out of women and we know 9/10ths of the stuff their doing most likely isn't all that great for the women involved. But I digress, my point is that if you really enjoy it and aren't afraid to just have fun it will be "good sex". Don't be scared to try things and as I tell my friends, practice, practice, practice. I haven't gotten my great ass from squats but from being absolutely determined to make us both love me being on top. (try leaning forward a bit when your on top and half supporting yourself with your hands on his chest. Or even better, do it on a couch or chair. The angle for both of you is much better) Anyway, I can now say it might be my favorite postion. So keep at it! You'll thank me later.

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Youre retarded, why are you trying to compete with his past ex? Just be glad he loves you and is with you. Thats all you should be thinking about. Retarded question.

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That wasn't judgmental and condescending at all.

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OP here. First of all, thanks so much RP for answering the question and you, too, Missy for the advice. We're doing an LDR right now, but once we're together again, I'll give it a try. :)

As for my motivations for asking this question, it isn't so much that I want to compete with his ex, but that I want to make my man feel really, really good. That so "retarded"?

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ugh i HATE the feeling of not being better than an ex. Here's my advice: if you're old enough, drink some alcohol but not too much. Act more drunk than you actually are, not falling over drunk, just more confident drunk. Then take the lead, strip for him, push him back onto the bed and make out with him then kiss lower and lower and lower.... you get the picture. Then look at him lustily and put his hands on your boobs while you straddle him. While making eye contact, slowly lower yourself onto him and sigh/moan. Grind into him while grabbing your boobs and act like you are the best he'll ever have. The more enthusiastic you are, the more he will be. You can lean forward so that you're basically laying on top of him and kiss his neck while going up and down. Whisper in his ear "you like that?" or "show me how you like it" and put his hands on your hips. Tell him to spank you or pull your hair or whatever you like. If you tell him what to do, you'll seem a lot more experienced than you actually are. Hope this helps!

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