Hell yes, it's upsetting. Can you imagine if nights you're not there, your man is F'ing his ex's anatomically accurate Pockt P*ssy? Knowing that your partner masturbates is a good thing. Knowing they are t*tty F'ing a life size plastic bust of their ex's boobs - ain't so cool.
I would cease and desist with this behavior. Breaking up with your ex means breaking up with all ofhim: his comfy T-shirts, his cool parents and his friggin' wang too. I have this image of you opening your sock drawer after having unsatisfactory sex with your current man's human 5" only to whip out The Peter Greenberg 9". On it inscribed: To my girl. May you enjoy my huge dong in perpetuity. Best of luck in your future endeavors. Yours, Big Petey.
Bottom line: let by-cocks be by-cocks. You are dating a new package. Enjoy your current man and though I'm a big proponent of sex toys, for goodness sake buy a generic vibrator, i.e. a UFO: Unindentifable F'ing Object.
WHY would you even mention that to your new boyfriend????? That was dumb!
That is insensitive if not entirely crass and idiotic. Why don't you just pull out the sex tape you made while your at it.
that's so screwed up. why would you do that????
also, i think "let by-cocks be by-cocks" is the best expression ever.
great answer Funny Guy :D
Sorry to be rude, but really--what the f%ck is wrong with you?? Why in the hell would you ever tell him that it was shaped like your ex? He probably would have just assumed it was a regular ol' dildo otherwise. You must have been /trying/ to make him jealous or something. Two thumbs down.
If I found out my man had some sort of masturbatory aid that had ANYthing to do with an ex, I'd dump his @ss unless he threw it in the fireplace right before my eyes.
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Wow. I guess we found the line, huh?
Aren't you guys always saying things like this?:
"I would be lying if I said the items I've kept didn't lead to some awkward conversations with girlfriends. We all like to think that the person we're with came to us like a newborn baby, unsullied by past relationships. The truth is, we come to new relationships carrying the marks of our past, be they physical objects like love letters or mix CDs, or simply memories of the good times and bad. Ultimately, it's just stuff in a box. That's the best way for you (and your guy) to think about it."
-Nick Nadal, Chic Geek
"In theory, I think people should absolutely be allowed to hold onto reminders of past loves"
-Michael Swaim, (former) Funny Guy
"My past helped inform the present, for which the new person is attempting to forge a future. Or something. Mostly though, it's because it's my crap and I like my crap. I don't need a good reason. It's mine, mine, mine."
-Panama Jackson, Girl's BFF
"I keep all of my old love letters, and various romantic mementos from the past in the same place I keep my cat's paw -- in an ark made out of dinosaur fossils that I keep in a booby trapped crawlspace.
I expect my girlthang to do the same thing."
-John DeVore (former) Reformed Player
That's all from one post.
But oh, no, the thing in question happens to be a sex toy? That she's had since before she knew you, uses when you're not around, and doesn't expect you to handle in any way? Suddenly it's a different story, huh?
Okay, granted, this is a particularly... graphic memento of her former love, but in the end, it's just a dildo, and it's none of your business. Maybe the dimensions make you feel inadequate or insecure, but that happens any time we think about our steady's exes, and is strictly your problem, not hers.
I mean, it's just molded after her ex. It's not like she's doing it with the real thing.
(That said, still pretty tasteless of the lady to bring it up. Hey girl, just keep that thing under wraps by the bedside, kay?)
I think there's a difference between mementos and a replica of his junk. I'm not sure exactly where the line should be, but I think it's safe to say that crosses it. Especially since a lot of people use vibrators as part of their sex with their partner, so for all we know a replica of her exes cock might have actually ended up in their sex life together, which would be beyond creepy. Personally I think I would explain that I didn't really think of it as "his" anymore and that if it really bothers him (the new bf) then I'll respect his feelings and throw it out. Maybe even make a playful date to go down to the sex shop together and pick out something new.
The one from John DeVore says his mementos are cryptic and well-hidden, while an astonishing 0% of the rest promote parading memoirs of the former partner in front of the current. I don't think you even seriously read any of those comments.
It's not even the fact that it's a sex toy that bothers me - it's the fact that she busted it out and paraded it infront of the guy. It would be equally disturbing to me if she pulled out all the love letters she had from past lovers and told him all about them in detail.
I mean at this point it stopped being "junk in a chest" or "crap in a crawl space". It's not something that's in the past and a memento, it's something that's in her present and is actively being used...
Whether you think it's a big deal or not is beside the point. The point is your partner, whom you love, thinks it's a big deal and it bothers him, a lot. Go tell him you're sorry, that you never meant to hurt him, and throw the thang away.
Really keeping it is not the problem. Using it is a bit wierd, but that's her own business. The real problem was telling him.. We all know how important a man's jewels are to him, and that was just a huge blow to his ego.
do unto others what u want others to do unto u.she should put herself in the guy's shoes.if is the other way round,how is she going to feel? if u are soo much into your ex, why break up with him
I would have dumped your ass on the spot. Just saying. Bone head move I would never want to eff your pussy again. If you offered I might put it in your butt before I go (good bye fuck, not make up fuck) but unless you tempted me with ass the door would be swinging.
THOSE THINGS EXIST!?!