In a word, yes.

You don't even know if that dude still wants you and you're considering trying to pursue something that will remove you AND your child from a support system that you're currently used to? And what does "poor" mean? Does that mean that he's a crappy man and isn't taking care of his responsibilities? I'm asking because your tone doesn't imply that at all. Based on personal experience and too-close-for-comfort life situations in family, when a woman is dealing with a terrible father she doesn't just say the relationship is poor. She tends to go in. Even the mousiest of women has a sore spot for a man not taking care of his child.

So that leads me to think (and feel free to correct me if I'm wrong) that your personal relationship with him, outside of his duties as a fater, isn't where you'd like it to be. You sound like a woman searching for love. And there's nothing wrong with that, but you've clearly got to make better decisions.

Does your ex even know you have a child? Would he be welcoming of you back into his life knowing this? A lot of men don't want to raise somebody's else's child. The distance makes this all the more off. He's that far away and you're considering attempting to reignite some flame that will leave you long-term unsatisfied without somebody relocating?

Look, you can give dude a call. See where his head is at? Maybe even plan a trip to visit, but you need to realize that he's your ex for a reason too. Feelings are just that...feelings. What you have now are responsibilities to a kid who needs you to make the best possible decisions at all times.

By the way, I ignored the "want to go find him" assuming you only mean on Facebook, and not moving to Cali sight-unseen. Or NY. Or Zimbabwe. Wherever.