So, let me get this straight, you wanted a relationship that was purely about sex and nothing else...and you started banging a married guy? You didn't think that might have, I don't know, an emotional component for somebody at some point? Possibly, oh, his wife? Or maybe that he might feel just a little guilt over what he was doing?
If you just want sex, go to college bars about two hours before closing time, don't hook up with married guys. Or take out an ad on the Internet. But from now on, avoid people already in a relationship. They've got lots of strings, and it hurts them hard when you yank on them.
Gee...I would bet HIS WIFE FOUND OUT and he was told to go NO CONTACT OR ELSE!
You're one sick lady!!
I've been cheated on many times...and it really hurts, regardless of the circumstances (just for sex, or emotional connection or whatever).
I know it was "the married guy" who cheated, not you (if you are single yourself) and he might have cheated with someone else, if not you, but it's not cool to be the other woman, no matter what Jerry Springer guests say.
I have to chuckle. Your handle is good karma girl and you are telling this person it is OK to be the other women. What do you think karma is? Also how is she not cheating? She is just as guilty. You can not have an affair and only have one gulity party. It blows me away that people have such a hard time with integrity, compassion and caring about all people.
Check your reading comprehesion.
When tables are turned around, she would know how much it hurts. Somewhere along her lifetime, she would know.
Goodness. This site makes me wonder how many people I know that are having affairs with married people. Seems like about a fifth of the questions have something to do with it...
Most studies I've seen says it ranges between 30 and 50%.
Seriously?! When will the adulterers stop looking for sympathy?!
Exactly. WTF?
you say HE possibly wanted to make it something more than you wanted, which no one else seemed to address in the comments.
If he was that serious about wanting something more from you, and you said nope, just want sex, perhaps his iddy-biddy feelings got hurt so he stopped contact with you. He shoulda at least said something like "Bye". or maybe he was seeing someone else besides you and his wife and the other girl wants more than no strings attached, so he's pursuing her or someone else. Of course, his wife, as others said, found out and she told him he better end it or else, but then again, he should have at least said, "hey my wife found out, we gotta stop". It just seems very odd that he just totally stopped all contact. I've been in a few FWB/married guy affairs and never had one just stop without an explanation.
I didn't realize a married man owed his mistress an explanation as to why he's no longer going to be shagging her. Last I heard, the only person to whom he owes any explanation is his wife, and perhaps he's so busy explaining and trying to make amends so that he doesn't lose his wife forever that he's simply not had a chance or desire to contact his no-strings affair partner.
Isn't "no-strings" explanation enough?
I'd say, "Good Riddance!" If you think this through clearly, you'll realize that married people come attached to a MULTITUDE OF STRINGS. Your best bet if you want a sex-only relationship is to find someone who lacks a spouse/girlfriend (read: truly single) and who is like-minded and can accept the parameters and terms of the type of relationship you're offering.
Who knows why he suddenly stopped calling you? Unless he ever crosses your path again, you'll only wonder. It could be guilt (although it's doubtful given that you might not be the first or the only woman he's ever cheated with); it could be that he was finally caught red-handed and given an ultimatum by his wife; it could be that he finally tired of the affair and just wanted out but didn't have the balls to just come out with it and tell you; or it might be that he had someone else lined up that he wanted to be free to pursue. Again, his reasons are his own and since you two didn't seem to have any kind of emotional bond established, he probably felt he didn't owe you an explanation of any sort. Easy come and easy go.
Next time, just be smarter and stay away from someone who's attached and committed to someone else. And in case you've never been the one that's cheated on, trust me when I tell you that it sucks to be on that end of the equation.
Moralists makes me sick. We arent perscriptioned one another. Everyone have his own choice. If kids are adults and you meet someone married that suits you better than anyone else, WHY NOT try !!!??? It is stupid of younger ppl to think and comment of something they didn't ever have in their lives.
And answer of the Moderator is really dumb and has no connections with reality and emotional life.... Nah...