To be equally blunt in reply - you are not going to know if a guy does it for you until you take him for a test drive.
You are wanting a sports car, yet guys don't come with convenient labels and body styling to make it easy to pick. The guy you dismiss as the 20 year old station wagon might have a jet engine under the hood - you simply cannot tell without trying him out.
Need I tell you that sex, while good fun, is not the be all and end all of a relationship? I didn't think so.
Now get out there and do some test driving.
Hi girl! I really understand you. I'm also 20 and a virgin, but that kind of virgin who needs sex :)) I also get horny but when it comes to the real thing, I just get so scared and give up. I'm too aware of my body's imperfections (please dont start with "love yourself" stuff) and that keeps me from being with a guy..that's why i'm sexually frustrated too and because of that I tend to make out with too many guys, only to feel better, somehow.. I don't think it's the same thing as your problem, but at least I know what you mean (sorry for my bad english)
Uh, OK, I am going to hate to say this, but if you've been masturbating daily, 5+ times, AND, actually getting 5+ orgasms daily, you won't find a man who can please you, though I'd bet there will be many boasting who could with great ease. Chronic masturbation is bad enough for men when they actually do get with a real woman, but I've been told even for women there comes a point where its too much a good thing. You've probably got your clitorus and other erogenous spots so conditioned to your self touch, a penis is probably not going to do it for you at this point.
You sound like a sex addict or nympho, neither which are satisfied by men - or anything really. Either you will need to tone down, big time, your self love, or be prepared for a life of sexual disappointments.
Wow, sex negativity! Um, girl, take it from a girl who masturbates all day long AND gets off with her boyfriend: a patient, attentive lover is all you need, and it feels pretty magical just because there's someone unfamiliar doing it. Yeah, it can be hard to orgasm the same way at first while you get used to someone else doing the work, but seriously, it's fun trying, and you'll get there. It took me maybe a week, two weeks, with my first boyfriend, learning how to do it with someone else. Also, the fact that you're already orgasmic helps a lot -- lots of girls get into relationships never having orgasmed before, and that is a lot harder for men to overcome than making a girl who already knows how to make her toes curl curl those toes.
There is NOTHING, absolutely nothing, wrong with being a sexual woman, and don't let jerks tell you you're abnormal or unable to be satisfied or need to stop touching yourself. It all feels good, and never be ashamed of what you're feeling or what you want.
Took your man two weeks?!? Damn!!! I would ring the bell during the first time with each woman I've been with, and in one case, rang it twice - during the first time. Don't think I've met a woman who would wait two weeks for a man to get her off. She'd toss the loser out long before that.
Yep, sexual women kick ass, that's why my wife is so awesome, she loves being sexually pleased. Obviously I'm pleasing her because she keeps demanding sex again.
Oh, I never insulted her, nor told her to stop, just to tone it down a little. Compulsive masturbation is a main symptom of sex addiction, and 5+ times a day, each and every day is compulsive. And this is assuming only a single orgasm with each masturbation session. Masturbation is good and healthy, but there is such thing as too much a good thing. Of course it's your lives and you're free to play with yourselves until death.
How is your ability to get women off at all relevant here? You're lucky that you have been with women who can come so easily, but NO woman is the same, and YOU are not the only factor in making a girl come. The mind is very powerful and can sometimes hinder the ability for a woman to orgasm, regardless of how good you are. That doesn't mean it isn't enjoyable, just no orgasm. Maybe you didn't insult the OP (although you did suggest she has a legit psychological disorder which in my opinion is a little offensive, would you like it if I said u seem schizophrenic or abusive?) BUT you did just insult this commenter's boyfriend! How is a patient lover who WANTS to get his girlfriend off and is willing to try a loser?
You sound arrogant and ignorant.
LOL that remark was to counter the previous commenter's about my presumed lack sexual prowess. Honestly I'm probably below baseline in experience and technique for men in my age group. Don't know if I was lucky, but I do know none of my previous lovers played with themselves 5 times or more daily. I also took advantage of foreplay to explore and find the most sensitive spots and adjusted my moves accordingly.
You got me, I was most ignorant that young women these days were such, enthusiastic, masturbators. But since you've enlightened me, some of the things I've noticed are beginning to make so much more sense now.
"loser" was one of the more kinder words I heard, some of the things I heard former lovers being called by women were much more harsh. But then these women were in their 30s or late 20s, so they expect more from men. I suppose it would take a 14 year old boy longer than two weeks to get it right.
I was also 14 at the time when I had my first boyfriend, and we were both total virgins. But my point is that masturbating a lot does NOT prevent you from being satisfied by someone else.
Oh wow, I definitely could have written this in for myself. Except I think my problem is, I want someone who knows what they're doing and want a relationship as well...and that I'm picky...and have a thing for older men apparently. But I'm gradually learning (and accepting) that maybe going out there and giving people a chance to fill whatever void it is you're in need of having filled (be it just sexual or what have you) is going to have to happen instead of you over-thinking and crossing out people before you even give them a chance to prove or disprove themselves. Just keep in mind that more than likely, you're going to happen across a few (or more) duds before you find someone you can be compatible with (note: this does not mean perfect), but from what you said (and do) it sounds like you're sexually competent (you know what you like and how you like it) and you have the sort of sexual freedom that I think is a wonderful asset to have when trying to find the very thing you're looking for.