Two words - "Daddy issues."
You ain't out looking for sex or a partnership, you are mainly looking to feel safe. Not that older guys are lacking in the skills department, of course! And feeling safe and cherished is an important part of any relationship. But you are taking it to extremes.
Time to sit yourself down and ask yourself why.
You might want to go to a counselor you feel safe with and disucss this further. This can be and often is a sign of sexual abuse by an older male when you were young. Even if you don't have memories....
Oh yes, a woman likes older men. She must have been raped!
That comment was not meant as a black and white statement. And there is the saying where there is smoke there is fire. It would be prudent to check for embers.
It is a very touchy subject I understand and the known statistics for the abuse of both girls and boys is tragically stagering. There are classic symptoms of sexual abuse and a counselor trained in the area will be able to spot those and help.
One does not equal another I understand, but it would be more typical/natural for her to be interested in young men her own age. She herself thinks it odd hence she wrote and asked for advice.
If she talks to a counselor and finds all is well she will have peace of mind which I hope is the case.
I'm the same way, honey. It's not always daddy issues, you could just have a taste for maturity and experience.
Yea I wouldn't necessarily label it as daddy issues. My dad wasn't around for most of my upbringing and I'm not really into older men (except for Eric Bana, of course). I'm 20 and all my exes are in their 20's but it's really a matter of taste - like Shelby said, you might just like your men more mature and experienced (and I've been told they're more likely to cater to a woman in bed).
sophie, there is a flaw in your logic, just because you were in one situation and didn't end up with daddy issues doesn't mean other people in the same situation wont have daddy issues. Think of it as two circles, the larger circle is the absent father (emotionally or physically) and then theres a smaller circle inside which is the "attraction to older men" circle. The little circle is in the big circle, but not everyone in the big circle ends up in the little circle.
... that was unnecessarily convoluted.
Anyway, I think that more often than not when someone asks a question like this it's because there is an issue of some sort there.
It was the use of the word craving that rang my warning bell.
Yeah, the whole daddy issue thing could possibly have nothing to do with it. I myself am 18 and into much older guys, as well as guys my own age, (and I had and still have, a great relationship with my dad) but I think that is mostly because I know exactly what I want, and that is to start a family with someone who has gotten their partying and sleeping around a lot out of their system by the time they meet me.
And as for the older guys being great in bed, that just depends on who the guy is, and it's not 100%, because there has to be the desire to learn how to please you, and the willingness to do so as well. For example, when I was younger, I used to have an 18-year-old boyfriend who never even tried to please me, and so I used to think that was because he was young and inexperienced. But then I met an 18-year-old recently, who gave me the best orgasm I've ever had, because he was totally in control, and I didn't have to think about anything, he just knew what I liked from the way my body responded. So it just really depends on what the guy is willing to do.
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