See, people, this is why proper sentence construction and clarity of communication is important: it's the difference between implying your boyfriend keeps wearing old gifts, and implying your boyfriend is a thieving and kinda creepy cross-dresser.
If he is literally wearing clothes from ex-girlfriends, as in their actual clothes, as your question seems to be implying, then I think we can strike "kind of" and just agree that that's weird. Like, really weird. Like, "maybe consider a little therapy" weird. This is probably just the lip of a very, very deep rabbit hole, and you probably want to ask yourself if he's worth it before going in any farther.
If he's just wearing clothes they've given him, then it's absolutely normal: not everybody just burns all the stuff their exes give them, or can't bear to look at it, or even remember who gave it to them.
i had an issue with this when i started dating my boyfriend, and he explained to me that they are clothes, she had good taste, he cant afford to replace them, and guys just dont get sentimental like that. I got over it, he's wearing them, and looking good with me, so thats what matters:)
I would say your boyfriend speaks for the majority of men on this issue. I am mind-blowingly cheap when it comes to clothes, and I never remember who gave me anything. I think I'm wearing a sweater from an ex right now, actually. Guys don't associate strong memories with clothes, for the most part, although I will admit I hung on to a Superman shirt my dad bought me when I was a kid for far, far longer than I could wear it.
i had an issue with this when i started dating my boyfriend, and he explained to me that they are clothes, she had good taste, he cant afford to replace them, and guys just dont get sentimental like that. I got over it, he's wearing them, and looking good with me, so thats what matters:)
As long as I don't know which item it was, I guess I'll be fine with it. Still, it doesn't help sometimes when you see something that reminds you of his past gfs. Though I think as long as you are secure with him then everything should be fine.
"I got over it, he's wearing them, and looking good with me, so thats what matters. :)" - Nicely put!
How well did you know the guy that you can catalog which of his clothing comes from past girlfriends?
I don't see what the big deal is honestly. I wear stuff my exes gave me not because i miss my exes but simply because I like the items they gave me and they fit me and they look good on me. Who cares where it came from? Grow up! Get over it! If you are gonna let little things like this upset you, you should date virgins who never dated anyone before.
I have two pairs of Louboutins that were a gift from an ex and I would NEVER toss them so I wouldn't expect any new guy I have to toss out his stuff either. What's fair is fair!
Almost every article of clothing my ex owns was a gift from me. It'd be difficult to replace that many nice shirts and jeans. I don't expect him to give it back...what would I even do with it? I gave those things to him, so they're his to keep. I understand it being kind of weird for whichever girl comes after me, but it's not a big deal. For all she knows, it could be a nice shirt that his mom gave him.
it's actually reverse for me and my guy, we've been dating for awhile and when we had been dating for a few months he was going through his old stuff and getting rid of stuff. He wanted to get rid of stuff his ex gave him. He told me about it and I told him to keep the item if he liked it, and not to just waste it because his ex gave it to him. He said he still didn't want it and so he offered it to me. I thought that was weird to give your new girlfriend the things your ex gave you because you didn't want it because of it's personal reasons or it's impracticality so he gave it to his brother. I don't see the sense of wasting something that's in good shape, no matter who it's from.
I still keep stuff exes gave to me, because they were nice gifts given from a nice time in my life. Just because we're no longer dating doesn't mean it wasn't nice while it lasted, we were attracted to each other for a reason and if we weren't meant to be as a couple then I imagine their friendship with me was meant to be.
however, I don't tell him which items of mine are gifts from my exes because I think that might bother him, and he's the only man for me so he shouldn't be jealous of my past, of a guy who isn't with me and wasn't meant to be with me.